Decoding the queer alphabet soup

Article by Shannon Greenwood.

 

Last week’s Supreme Court hearings on the Defense of Marriage Act and California’s Proposition 8 brought a huge spotlight to the LGBTQ community. With that spotlight came a wave of inclusivity by individuals far and wide, some of whom may not have ever dabbled in LGBTQ activism before. The overwhelming support I have seen brought on by the Supreme Court hearings just happened to coincide perfectly with the start of April, which is celebrated as Pride Month.

Pride Month is exactly what it sounds like. It’s a huge celebration of the LGBTQ community in all of its entirety. Here at MU, the LGBTQ Resource Center is putting together numerous events including Pride Prom, the Let’s Get Loud Drag Show and the Queer Monologues, to name a few.

In honor of the start of Pride Month and the incredible support recently seen due to the Supreme Court cases, I think it’s important to discuss the LGBTQ community as a whole and some of the issues seen by the individual groups who fall within it.

The start of this discussion begins with the notion that we, as humans, need categories. Our minds are constantly taking in information and to keep up with it all, we subconsciously sort things into groups called schemas. Schemas help us process information faster, which is great, except they can also lead to stereotyping and discrimination.

A major reason why the queer community faces discrimination is because the community is sometimes misunderstood. We, as a society, tend to distance ourselves from things we don’t understand — not necessarily because we are not inclusive, but because those differences are foreign and sometimes left unclear.

So, to break this chain of LGBTQ misinformation, I am going to try to define the “queer alphabet soup.” I say “try” because my definitions are in no way exhaustive or even necessary. I wholeheartedly believe defining who you are is done on an individual basis. Some people fit into these definitions, some do not. The thing is, you don’t need to perfectly align with any of these labels in order to be identifiable. My hope in defining these groups is to bring a sense of understanding of the LGBTQ community.

The five letters of LGBTQ stand for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer. Lesbian is a term used for people who identify as women who are attracted to other women. Likewise, a gay man refers to anyone who identifies as a man and is attracted to other men.

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation in which a person can be attracted to both men and women. A common misconception about bisexuality is that it doesn’t even exist. It is sometimes assumed that someone who identifies as bisexual, but has a preference for the opposite sex, might simply be faking it. And if a bisexual has a preference for the same sex, then they’ve still got one foot inside the closet. Both of these are not true. Bisexuals have the ability to be sexually and emotionally attracted to both genders, but that doesn’t mean they’re attracted to everyone.

Transgender is not a sexual orientation, but rather a gender identity. People who are transgender feel they were born into the wrong gender’s body. The transgender community faces discrimination in an assortment of ways, including not being referred to by their preferred name and pronouns as well as being harassed because they don’t fit into societal norms associated with gender.

Queer is a term that encompasses the entirety of the LGBTQ community. Though it used to have a negative connotation, “queer” has been accepted back as a term to refer to anyone within the community.

On top of these five groups, there are several others that fit into the extended LGBTQ acronym including asexual, aromantic, pansexual and intersex. Asexuality is feeling little to no sexual attraction to people, while aromantic is the same thing but with feelings of intimacy. Pansexual, which is sometimes confused with bisexuality, is the attraction to people without regard to gender. The main difference to note is that “pan” means all while “bi” means two. Lastly, intersex refers to someone who was born with reproductive anatomy that doesn’t fit into distinctive classification of male or female.

Last but not least is an ally. An ally is someone who doesn’t necessarily identify as queer but is supportive of equal rights for all. Allies are included in the LGBTQ bubble and can be anyone from straight, cisgender marriage-equality activists to gay men promoting trans rights to trans women protesting discrimination against bisexuals. Anyone can be an ally; I think that’s an important thing to note as we begin our month-long celebration. Pride Month is about showing pride for all aspects of the queer community, and we do that by first and foremost being allies with ourselves and with each other.

(Source: themaneater.com)

@1 year ago with 8 notes
#queer #lesbian #gay #bisexual #trans* #asexual #pansexual #polysexual 

HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES SURVEY FOR MARRIAGE EQUALITY!

Anyone living in Australia, or even outside Australia, could you please take 2 minutes of your time to fill out this important survey on marriage equality. So far the current results aren’t looking good and we need to do a tumblr bomb!

Thanks very much everyone.

Nick

Survey here (x)

@2 years ago with 7 notes
#marriage equality #australia #equal rights #equality #gay #queer #asexual #gsm 

Games to have gay options

This is really cool, it talks about how video game developer BioWare will allow for same sex relationships in the romantic plot lines in all future games. This had already been added to the latest sci-fi game, Mass Effect 3 (apart from the character Liara who is considered to be asexual). 

Here the article about it here (x)

@2 years ago with 28 notes
#lgbt #queer #asexual #gsm 

thingsthatmakeyouacey:

pershanti:

Hi guys! I’m making a collection of mini stories and reflections on sexuality and sexual preference! Submit them anonymously in my ask! Example ideas below:

  • Your own coming out story
  • Stories of bullying or hate
  • Stories about being happy with yours or someone else’s sexuality
  • Abundance or lack of support within the gay community
  • Stories regarding your orientation, or sexuality in general
  • Questioning stories
  • Transsexual/transgender stories
  • Stories about being asexual
  • Challenges you have overcome
  • Challenges you are still dealing with
  • Things that you don’t understand about sexuality
  • Questions
  • Anything else relating to sexuality!

I’ll post the entire paper when it is finished :) (BTW it’s for my Human Sexual Orientation class)

Please help out!

@3 years ago with 12 notes
#asexual #asexuality #LGBT #LGBTQ #queer #bisexuality #trans #transgender #transsexual #pansexuality #gay rights #pride #sexuality #homosexuality 

How about this - we admit there are assholes in every community, there are people ignorant of history and context in every community, there’s people insensitive to the perspectives of others in every community. Sometimes these overlap but sometimes they do NOT.

<3

(Source: nethenclawpuff)

@3 years ago with 28 notes
#asexual #asexuality #queer #people who are not asexual or demisexal or grey-asexual #LGBTQ #every other group of humans ever #humanity #swearing #crude language 

http://the-plaid-velociraptor.tumblr.com/post/19996812445

This collab channel is looking for some vloggers to talk about life experiences.

(x)

@2 years ago with 2 notes
#gsm #queer #pride #asexual #asexuality #lesbian #bisexual #bi #homosexual #gay #pansexual #ally #questioning #polysexual #trans* #i dont know what to tag this as sorry if i leave someone out #submission 

Worth the watch.

@2 years ago with 201 notes
#asexual #gay #gsm #lesbian #lgbtq #queer #trans #bisexual #pansexual #polysexual 

czaso-marnowacz:

today i designed (in 20 minutes, so im expecting many changes and advices) asexuality mascot. i wanted him/her to stay agendered, so Acen can be boy or girl :^) she/he is wearing colors of asexy flag. what does asexual community think about it?

(Source: dobrekwiaty)

@2 years ago with 10 notes
#asexuality #aven #asexual #mascot #lgbt #lgbta #ace #cake #pie #queer #community #advice #mascot #manga #drawing #photoshop #design 

Amazing Link, Amazing Wiki on Uncommon Orientations and Identities- Please Check it Out. 

(Source: fatpeopleofcolor)

@3 years ago with 22 notes
#fluid #asexual #demi #queer #trans #male #female #cis #submission 

Can we please, please just stop all the drama and fighting?

tiredoffighting:

Even for just a month. Seriously, the drama and shitstorm is getting ridiculous. I am not denying there are valid issues on both sides. I’m not denying that things need talked about and discussed. But it’s getting to be too much, and people are getting too mad, and nothing is getting accomplished.

So how about we all take a month and just stop. Take a break. No fighting, whatsoever. No name calling, threats, arguments, etc. (And the first two should never happen anyway, thought that was common sense). Discussions, in a calm and constructive manner are always welcome, unless someone involved has issues. I’m not pointing any fingers, I’m not naming any names, and I’m not going to bring up the various issues.

Right now, everyone is mad. Everyone is reacting in anger, misunderstandings are being made, and no one is actually talking that’s getting listened to. And the angriest ones are the ones shouting loudest, and the ones helping the least. So let’s all just stop. One month, of no fighting. If someone starts to fight, or tries to start something, ignore them. If someone wants to calmly discuss something, don’t just block them and ignore. Even if you say “I’m taking a break, not doing this right now”, don’t just ignore them, on either side.

Now, I’ve been staying vocally out of the entire debate, but I’ve been following it for awhile. I don’t know how it started, or when it got to this level, exactly. But it’s there now, on a few different issues. And it’s wearing people down and getting personal. So let’s just stop the fighting. One month, that’s it. Then go back to arguing, whatever. Or, maybe without the fighting, we’ll actually be able to figure something out in that month. Compromise, or find solutions, without erasing anyone or offending anyone.

We have issues to deal with. On both sides of the debate. But we’re not dealing with them right now, we’re just seeing who can yell loudest.

The ask box on this specific tumblr is open, and will remain open. Anonymous is on. And the submit box is open as well, for links or longer messages, whatever. If you want to come to me (agender, female bodied, fine with female pronouns, attracted to women, demisexual, has had sex, identified as lesbian before finding demisexuality and later realizing my total lack of gender) then fine, I’ll answer, and discuss calmly. Start fighting/arguing/attacking, and those I will ignore.

Basically, discussions are good, drama and yelling are bad, and not accomplishing anything.

(Source: )

@3 years ago with 6 notes
#asexual #asexuality #demisexuality #queer #demisexual #demi #ace #can we please stop fighting? 
Decoding the queer alphabet soup

Article by Shannon Greenwood.

 

Last week’s Supreme Court hearings on the Defense of Marriage Act and California’s Proposition 8 brought a huge spotlight to the LGBTQ community. With that spotlight came a wave of inclusivity by individuals far and wide, some of whom may not have ever dabbled in LGBTQ activism before. The overwhelming support I have seen brought on by the Supreme Court hearings just happened to coincide perfectly with the start of April, which is celebrated as Pride Month.

Pride Month is exactly what it sounds like. It’s a huge celebration of the LGBTQ community in all of its entirety. Here at MU, the LGBTQ Resource Center is putting together numerous events including Pride Prom, the Let’s Get Loud Drag Show and the Queer Monologues, to name a few.

In honor of the start of Pride Month and the incredible support recently seen due to the Supreme Court cases, I think it’s important to discuss the LGBTQ community as a whole and some of the issues seen by the individual groups who fall within it.

The start of this discussion begins with the notion that we, as humans, need categories. Our minds are constantly taking in information and to keep up with it all, we subconsciously sort things into groups called schemas. Schemas help us process information faster, which is great, except they can also lead to stereotyping and discrimination.

A major reason why the queer community faces discrimination is because the community is sometimes misunderstood. We, as a society, tend to distance ourselves from things we don’t understand — not necessarily because we are not inclusive, but because those differences are foreign and sometimes left unclear.

So, to break this chain of LGBTQ misinformation, I am going to try to define the “queer alphabet soup.” I say “try” because my definitions are in no way exhaustive or even necessary. I wholeheartedly believe defining who you are is done on an individual basis. Some people fit into these definitions, some do not. The thing is, you don’t need to perfectly align with any of these labels in order to be identifiable. My hope in defining these groups is to bring a sense of understanding of the LGBTQ community.

The five letters of LGBTQ stand for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer. Lesbian is a term used for people who identify as women who are attracted to other women. Likewise, a gay man refers to anyone who identifies as a man and is attracted to other men.

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation in which a person can be attracted to both men and women. A common misconception about bisexuality is that it doesn’t even exist. It is sometimes assumed that someone who identifies as bisexual, but has a preference for the opposite sex, might simply be faking it. And if a bisexual has a preference for the same sex, then they’ve still got one foot inside the closet. Both of these are not true. Bisexuals have the ability to be sexually and emotionally attracted to both genders, but that doesn’t mean they’re attracted to everyone.

Transgender is not a sexual orientation, but rather a gender identity. People who are transgender feel they were born into the wrong gender’s body. The transgender community faces discrimination in an assortment of ways, including not being referred to by their preferred name and pronouns as well as being harassed because they don’t fit into societal norms associated with gender.

Queer is a term that encompasses the entirety of the LGBTQ community. Though it used to have a negative connotation, “queer” has been accepted back as a term to refer to anyone within the community.

On top of these five groups, there are several others that fit into the extended LGBTQ acronym including asexual, aromantic, pansexual and intersex. Asexuality is feeling little to no sexual attraction to people, while aromantic is the same thing but with feelings of intimacy. Pansexual, which is sometimes confused with bisexuality, is the attraction to people without regard to gender. The main difference to note is that “pan” means all while “bi” means two. Lastly, intersex refers to someone who was born with reproductive anatomy that doesn’t fit into distinctive classification of male or female.

Last but not least is an ally. An ally is someone who doesn’t necessarily identify as queer but is supportive of equal rights for all. Allies are included in the LGBTQ bubble and can be anyone from straight, cisgender marriage-equality activists to gay men promoting trans rights to trans women protesting discrimination against bisexuals. Anyone can be an ally; I think that’s an important thing to note as we begin our month-long celebration. Pride Month is about showing pride for all aspects of the queer community, and we do that by first and foremost being allies with ourselves and with each other.

(Source: themaneater.com)

1 year ago
#queer #lesbian #gay #bisexual #trans* #asexual #pansexual #polysexual 
http://the-plaid-velociraptor.tumblr.com/post/19996812445

This collab channel is looking for some vloggers to talk about life experiences.

(x)

2 years ago
#gsm #queer #pride #asexual #asexuality #lesbian #bisexual #bi #homosexual #gay #pansexual #ally #questioning #polysexual #trans* #i dont know what to tag this as sorry if i leave someone out #submission 
HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES SURVEY FOR MARRIAGE EQUALITY!

Anyone living in Australia, or even outside Australia, could you please take 2 minutes of your time to fill out this important survey on marriage equality. So far the current results aren’t looking good and we need to do a tumblr bomb!

Thanks very much everyone.

Nick

Survey here (x)

2 years ago
#marriage equality #australia #equal rights #equality #gay #queer #asexual #gsm 
2 years ago
#asexual #gay #gsm #lesbian #lgbtq #queer #trans #bisexual #pansexual #polysexual 
Games to have gay options

This is really cool, it talks about how video game developer BioWare will allow for same sex relationships in the romantic plot lines in all future games. This had already been added to the latest sci-fi game, Mass Effect 3 (apart from the character Liara who is considered to be asexual). 

Here the article about it here (x)

2 years ago
#lgbt #queer #asexual #gsm 
2 years ago
#asexuality #aven #asexual #mascot #lgbt #lgbta #ace #cake #pie #queer #community #advice #mascot #manga #drawing #photoshop #design 

thingsthatmakeyouacey:

pershanti:

Hi guys! I’m making a collection of mini stories and reflections on sexuality and sexual preference! Submit them anonymously in my ask! Example ideas below:

  • Your own coming out story
  • Stories of bullying or hate
  • Stories about being happy with yours or someone else’s sexuality
  • Abundance or lack of support within the gay community
  • Stories regarding your orientation, or sexuality in general
  • Questioning stories
  • Transsexual/transgender stories
  • Stories about being asexual
  • Challenges you have overcome
  • Challenges you are still dealing with
  • Things that you don’t understand about sexuality
  • Questions
  • Anything else relating to sexuality!

I’ll post the entire paper when it is finished :) (BTW it’s for my Human Sexual Orientation class)

Please help out!

3 years ago
#asexual #asexuality #LGBT #LGBTQ #queer #bisexuality #trans #transgender #transsexual #pansexuality #gay rights #pride #sexuality #homosexuality 
Amazing Link, Amazing Wiki on Uncommon Orientations and Identities- Please Check it Out.→

(Source: fatpeopleofcolor)

3 years ago
#fluid #asexual #demi #queer #trans #male #female #cis #submission 
How about this - we admit there are assholes in every community, there are people ignorant of history and context in every community, there’s people insensitive to the perspectives of others in every community. Sometimes these overlap but sometimes they do NOT.

<3

(Source: nethenclawpuff)

3 years ago
#asexual #asexuality #queer #people who are not asexual or demisexal or grey-asexual #LGBTQ #every other group of humans ever #humanity #swearing #crude language 
Can we please, please just stop all the drama and fighting?

tiredoffighting:

Even for just a month. Seriously, the drama and shitstorm is getting ridiculous. I am not denying there are valid issues on both sides. I’m not denying that things need talked about and discussed. But it’s getting to be too much, and people are getting too mad, and nothing is getting accomplished.

So how about we all take a month and just stop. Take a break. No fighting, whatsoever. No name calling, threats, arguments, etc. (And the first two should never happen anyway, thought that was common sense). Discussions, in a calm and constructive manner are always welcome, unless someone involved has issues. I’m not pointing any fingers, I’m not naming any names, and I’m not going to bring up the various issues.

Right now, everyone is mad. Everyone is reacting in anger, misunderstandings are being made, and no one is actually talking that’s getting listened to. And the angriest ones are the ones shouting loudest, and the ones helping the least. So let’s all just stop. One month, of no fighting. If someone starts to fight, or tries to start something, ignore them. If someone wants to calmly discuss something, don’t just block them and ignore. Even if you say “I’m taking a break, not doing this right now”, don’t just ignore them, on either side.

Now, I’ve been staying vocally out of the entire debate, but I’ve been following it for awhile. I don’t know how it started, or when it got to this level, exactly. But it’s there now, on a few different issues. And it’s wearing people down and getting personal. So let’s just stop the fighting. One month, that’s it. Then go back to arguing, whatever. Or, maybe without the fighting, we’ll actually be able to figure something out in that month. Compromise, or find solutions, without erasing anyone or offending anyone.

We have issues to deal with. On both sides of the debate. But we’re not dealing with them right now, we’re just seeing who can yell loudest.

The ask box on this specific tumblr is open, and will remain open. Anonymous is on. And the submit box is open as well, for links or longer messages, whatever. If you want to come to me (agender, female bodied, fine with female pronouns, attracted to women, demisexual, has had sex, identified as lesbian before finding demisexuality and later realizing my total lack of gender) then fine, I’ll answer, and discuss calmly. Start fighting/arguing/attacking, and those I will ignore.

Basically, discussions are good, drama and yelling are bad, and not accomplishing anything.

(Source: )

3 years ago
#asexual #asexuality #demisexuality #queer #demisexual #demi #ace #can we please stop fighting?