asexual-not-a-sexual:

I’ve recieved a lot of requests for a masterpost. 

So…I made one. 

Yeah. 

Like always, contact me with any changes. 

Like always, if you’re going to complain that demisexuality isn’t real, polysexuals are just confused, trans* people are liars, or asexuals need to get laid…. Just, I dunno, stop. 

@2 years ago with 21642 notes
#orientation #gender #gsm 

http://the-plaid-velociraptor.tumblr.com/post/19996812445

This collab channel is looking for some vloggers to talk about life experiences.

(x)

@2 years ago with 2 notes
#gsm #queer #pride #asexual #asexuality #lesbian #bisexual #bi #homosexual #gay #pansexual #ally #questioning #polysexual #trans* #i dont know what to tag this as sorry if i leave someone out #submission 

Worth the watch.

@2 years ago with 201 notes
#asexual #gay #gsm #lesbian #lgbtq #queer #trans #bisexual #pansexual #polysexual 

Games to have gay options

This is really cool, it talks about how video game developer BioWare will allow for same sex relationships in the romantic plot lines in all future games. This had already been added to the latest sci-fi game, Mass Effect 3 (apart from the character Liara who is considered to be asexual). 

Here the article about it here (x)

@2 years ago with 28 notes
#lgbt #queer #asexual #gsm 

"Gay teens don’t commit suicide because of bullying… But they commit suicide because they know it’s wrong and that God hates them."

Michelle Bachmann (via deathbypolitics)

There’s a possibility that this woman could be president. This is not ok. Be provoked. Speak out.

(via wontbecomplacent)

Signal boost. Bachmann is a hateful fucking bigot. The fact that she is even a CONTENDER for presidency (along with Rick Perry) tells me there is something seriously fucking wrong with this country.

(via abaldwin360)

Never even heard of this lady, but I want to punch her in the face right about now >.>

(via theanchorholdingyoudownisme)

Honestly thought this was a distasteful joke when I first read it…I’m now extremely disturbed that someone could actually think like this.

(via waitingtocollide)

@2 years ago with 948 notes
#Homophobia #Bullying #Hate #LGBT #GSM #Stupidity 

Wipe Out Homophobia Website Adds Asexuality Page 

(Source: ace-reporter)

@2 years ago with 46 notes
#asexuality #asexual #lgbt #GSM #organizations 

HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES SURVEY FOR MARRIAGE EQUALITY!

Anyone living in Australia, or even outside Australia, could you please take 2 minutes of your time to fill out this important survey on marriage equality. So far the current results aren’t looking good and we need to do a tumblr bomb!

Thanks very much everyone.

Nick

Survey here (x)

@2 years ago with 7 notes
#marriage equality #australia #equal rights #equality #gay #queer #asexual #gsm 

Being Asexual In the Queer Community.

I identify as an asexual, lesbo-romantic, queer woman of transgender experience.  Understanding my asexuality has been a process and a journey.  It has mostly happened during the past six years or so.  Certainly, the greater visibility of asexuals and of asexuality as an issue has helped me tremendously.  The founding of Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) ten years ago has prompted a radical shift in this culture’s understanding of asexuality and the asexual community.  I have been so delighted to see more and more asexual Blogs, Vlogs and media representations.  While we have a long way to go in terms of education about the asexual community, all asexual people and asexual allies should be proud of the work that has happened in the past decade to establish asexual community and asexual liberation and education.

This Blog is about the place of asexuals within the queer movement.  I certainly do not wish to pretend like I am the first to weigh in on this topic, far from it.  There has been important and engaging discussion about this topic for many years, especially on the discussion boards and in the Blogosphere.  I would like to report that the queer community is entirely ace-positive and ace-friendly.  But sadly, that has not been my experience.  Below I will describe two incidents that are disturbing to me in terms of how asexuals are treated in the queer community:

A number of years ago, I was at an academic queer studies conference on the West Coast.  A gay man was giving a paper, and during the Q&A section, the issue of asexuality came up.  He said that the queer community should be gravely hesitant about accepting asexuals into their ranks.  While it was before I was identifying as asexual, his comment enraged me.  So much so that I could not verbalize my rage at the time.  What I DID understand was the treatment of transgender and transsexual people in the GLB community.  I have faced some serious transphobia over the years from some cis gays and lesbians.  When I first came out, I remember attending a gay and lesbian group and having a young lesbian tell me to go and organize with other transsexuals because this group was not for me.  The queer community often has a very exclusive mindset that is extremely judgmental towards any sexual minorities other than gays or lesbians.  The fight for bisexual, transgender and asexual inclusion in the larger queer community demonstrate this clearly.  I am not going to write about whether asexuality is or is not inherently queer in this post (though, for the record, I think that it is.)  Rather, I am going to assert that asexuals belong in the alphabet soup of the LGBT community.  This is because aexuals, like LGBT+ communities, face prejudice, discrimination and stigma due to their sexual orientation.  Gays and lesbians should be in the front lines supporting their asexual comrades.  There is no need for hesitation or suspicion if you have adeuqtely educated yourself about what it means to be asexual.

Another time I was working with a campus group to try to get them to become more inclusive.  I wrote an amendment for the group’s constitution to add additional letters to the LGBT, including two-spirit, same-gender-loving, pansexual and asexual.  They rejected the first three for specious reasons, including blatant racism and complete lack of an understanding of the term’s meanings.  When we got to asexual, one particularly obnoxious person told me that adding asexual was not necessary since all the asexuals he knew came out as gay a few months later, anyways.  Like the hate aimed at bisexuals, this was the old “but you’re really just gay anyway” nonsense that I have also heard for years, or the “trans people can’t deal with being gay so they become the opposite sex to become straight” hogwash.  I left the meeting dejected and outraged.  I was portrayed as the uber-politically-correct ideologue who was just trying to stir up trouble, rather than as someone who was genuinely trying to make the group more hospitable, inclusive and diverse.

It is my understanding that the film (A)sexual was screened at the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Creating Change Conference in Baltimore in January 2012 with 150 people in the room.  There was a long question and answer after the film screening with David Jay and Sara Beth Brooks.  The presentation created a buzz.  Please see:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KdSjVLACx80) This is fantastic, but what is not fantastic, is that it took them FOUR YEARS to get accepted into the conference.  I’m sorry, but this represents real resistance from the cis gay and lesbian establishment.  And it is not like they didn’t know better.  When I attended their conference in Detroit in 2008 I attended the talk-back after the conference where people provide feedback about the event.  I told them how lonely it was with no asexual presence or asexual caucus.  It is unacceptable to me that it took them until 2012 to actually have an asexual session.  To me, this represents the acephobic attitudes of many in the queer community who fear that we are going to somehow rain on their “sex-positive” parade.

Despite this resistance and prejudice, I do think some queer folks are now coming around and becoming more ace-friendly.  It is going to take a lot of education and a lot of patience, just like it has taken with bi- and trans-inclusion.  And I, for one, am willing to give people the benefit of the doubt if they are truly ignorant, as in uneducated about asexuality.  However, if they ARE educated on asexual issues and continue to be hostile or bigoted, then we have every right, even responsibility, to call them out on it.  I, for one, have been involved in the queer community for 20 years now, and I will be damned if anyone is going to tell me that I do not belong now because I identify as asexual.  We have always been a part of the queer community (just like bi, pan and trans folks) and we are not going anywhere, either.  Asexuals will only add strength to the queer community and the fight for sexual/gender liberation for EVERYbody.  

Written by transmeditations.wordpress.com

@2 years ago with 34 notes
#asexual #gsm #lgbt 

Model Clash: Defining Sexual Orientation (Warning: Ace Erasure)

greenchestnuts:

I’ve heard people suggest multiple times that anyone who’s not queer is straight, therefore aromantic asexuals (and heteroromantic asexuals) are straight. I always thought that, as a woman, being straight would require me to have at least some minimal interest in penises, but that’s neither here nor there.

Read More

@2 years ago with 25 notes
#asexual #asexuality #gsm #asexy #words words words 

Stop the Hate! I'm Talking to EVERYONE Here! 

violentopposites:

Long, emotional, possibly incoherent rant ahead, TW for lots of stuff:

Edited as of 1:00 AM August 25th, 2011.

I can only speak for myself when I say this, but after seeing lots and lots of hate between asexuals, heterosexuals, and queer-identified people I would like to say that I have NEVER intended to hurt anyone with my words on asexuality, the queer community, the word “queer”, gender and sexual minorities (GSM) in general, and acceptance. I’ve just been trying to state my opinion on a subject in a forum that maybe, just maybe, might allow me to raise awareness and acceptance for people who are hurting and don’t tend to get much attention elsewhere. If my words have been misconstrued to be hateful or hurtful, I’d like to set things straight. If I have hurt anyone, I am very sorry and will try to avoid this in the future.

Read More

@3 years ago with 26 notes
#asexual #asexuality #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqa #visibility #gsm #erasure #asexual community #queer community #identity #sexual orientation #respect #the weight of words #open mind 
2 years ago
#orientation #gender #gsm 
Wipe Out Homophobia Website Adds Asexuality Page→

(Source: ace-reporter)

2 years ago
#asexuality #asexual #lgbt #GSM #organizations 
http://the-plaid-velociraptor.tumblr.com/post/19996812445

This collab channel is looking for some vloggers to talk about life experiences.

(x)

2 years ago
#gsm #queer #pride #asexual #asexuality #lesbian #bisexual #bi #homosexual #gay #pansexual #ally #questioning #polysexual #trans* #i dont know what to tag this as sorry if i leave someone out #submission 
HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES SURVEY FOR MARRIAGE EQUALITY!

Anyone living in Australia, or even outside Australia, could you please take 2 minutes of your time to fill out this important survey on marriage equality. So far the current results aren’t looking good and we need to do a tumblr bomb!

Thanks very much everyone.

Nick

Survey here (x)

2 years ago
#marriage equality #australia #equal rights #equality #gay #queer #asexual #gsm 
2 years ago
#asexual #gay #gsm #lesbian #lgbtq #queer #trans #bisexual #pansexual #polysexual 
Being Asexual In the Queer Community.

I identify as an asexual, lesbo-romantic, queer woman of transgender experience.  Understanding my asexuality has been a process and a journey.  It has mostly happened during the past six years or so.  Certainly, the greater visibility of asexuals and of asexuality as an issue has helped me tremendously.  The founding of Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) ten years ago has prompted a radical shift in this culture’s understanding of asexuality and the asexual community.  I have been so delighted to see more and more asexual Blogs, Vlogs and media representations.  While we have a long way to go in terms of education about the asexual community, all asexual people and asexual allies should be proud of the work that has happened in the past decade to establish asexual community and asexual liberation and education.

This Blog is about the place of asexuals within the queer movement.  I certainly do not wish to pretend like I am the first to weigh in on this topic, far from it.  There has been important and engaging discussion about this topic for many years, especially on the discussion boards and in the Blogosphere.  I would like to report that the queer community is entirely ace-positive and ace-friendly.  But sadly, that has not been my experience.  Below I will describe two incidents that are disturbing to me in terms of how asexuals are treated in the queer community:

A number of years ago, I was at an academic queer studies conference on the West Coast.  A gay man was giving a paper, and during the Q&A section, the issue of asexuality came up.  He said that the queer community should be gravely hesitant about accepting asexuals into their ranks.  While it was before I was identifying as asexual, his comment enraged me.  So much so that I could not verbalize my rage at the time.  What I DID understand was the treatment of transgender and transsexual people in the GLB community.  I have faced some serious transphobia over the years from some cis gays and lesbians.  When I first came out, I remember attending a gay and lesbian group and having a young lesbian tell me to go and organize with other transsexuals because this group was not for me.  The queer community often has a very exclusive mindset that is extremely judgmental towards any sexual minorities other than gays or lesbians.  The fight for bisexual, transgender and asexual inclusion in the larger queer community demonstrate this clearly.  I am not going to write about whether asexuality is or is not inherently queer in this post (though, for the record, I think that it is.)  Rather, I am going to assert that asexuals belong in the alphabet soup of the LGBT community.  This is because aexuals, like LGBT+ communities, face prejudice, discrimination and stigma due to their sexual orientation.  Gays and lesbians should be in the front lines supporting their asexual comrades.  There is no need for hesitation or suspicion if you have adeuqtely educated yourself about what it means to be asexual.

Another time I was working with a campus group to try to get them to become more inclusive.  I wrote an amendment for the group’s constitution to add additional letters to the LGBT, including two-spirit, same-gender-loving, pansexual and asexual.  They rejected the first three for specious reasons, including blatant racism and complete lack of an understanding of the term’s meanings.  When we got to asexual, one particularly obnoxious person told me that adding asexual was not necessary since all the asexuals he knew came out as gay a few months later, anyways.  Like the hate aimed at bisexuals, this was the old “but you’re really just gay anyway” nonsense that I have also heard for years, or the “trans people can’t deal with being gay so they become the opposite sex to become straight” hogwash.  I left the meeting dejected and outraged.  I was portrayed as the uber-politically-correct ideologue who was just trying to stir up trouble, rather than as someone who was genuinely trying to make the group more hospitable, inclusive and diverse.

It is my understanding that the film (A)sexual was screened at the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Creating Change Conference in Baltimore in January 2012 with 150 people in the room.  There was a long question and answer after the film screening with David Jay and Sara Beth Brooks.  The presentation created a buzz.  Please see:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KdSjVLACx80) This is fantastic, but what is not fantastic, is that it took them FOUR YEARS to get accepted into the conference.  I’m sorry, but this represents real resistance from the cis gay and lesbian establishment.  And it is not like they didn’t know better.  When I attended their conference in Detroit in 2008 I attended the talk-back after the conference where people provide feedback about the event.  I told them how lonely it was with no asexual presence or asexual caucus.  It is unacceptable to me that it took them until 2012 to actually have an asexual session.  To me, this represents the acephobic attitudes of many in the queer community who fear that we are going to somehow rain on their “sex-positive” parade.

Despite this resistance and prejudice, I do think some queer folks are now coming around and becoming more ace-friendly.  It is going to take a lot of education and a lot of patience, just like it has taken with bi- and trans-inclusion.  And I, for one, am willing to give people the benefit of the doubt if they are truly ignorant, as in uneducated about asexuality.  However, if they ARE educated on asexual issues and continue to be hostile or bigoted, then we have every right, even responsibility, to call them out on it.  I, for one, have been involved in the queer community for 20 years now, and I will be damned if anyone is going to tell me that I do not belong now because I identify as asexual.  We have always been a part of the queer community (just like bi, pan and trans folks) and we are not going anywhere, either.  Asexuals will only add strength to the queer community and the fight for sexual/gender liberation for EVERYbody.  

Written by transmeditations.wordpress.com

2 years ago
#asexual #gsm #lgbt 
Games to have gay options

This is really cool, it talks about how video game developer BioWare will allow for same sex relationships in the romantic plot lines in all future games. This had already been added to the latest sci-fi game, Mass Effect 3 (apart from the character Liara who is considered to be asexual). 

Here the article about it here (x)

2 years ago
#lgbt #queer #asexual #gsm 
Model Clash: Defining Sexual Orientation (Warning: Ace Erasure)

greenchestnuts:

I’ve heard people suggest multiple times that anyone who’s not queer is straight, therefore aromantic asexuals (and heteroromantic asexuals) are straight. I always thought that, as a woman, being straight would require me to have at least some minimal interest in penises, but that’s neither here nor there.

Read More

2 years ago
#asexual #asexuality #gsm #asexy #words words words 
"Gay teens don’t commit suicide because of bullying… But they commit suicide because they know it’s wrong and that God hates them."

Michelle Bachmann (via deathbypolitics)

There’s a possibility that this woman could be president. This is not ok. Be provoked. Speak out.

(via wontbecomplacent)

Signal boost. Bachmann is a hateful fucking bigot. The fact that she is even a CONTENDER for presidency (along with Rick Perry) tells me there is something seriously fucking wrong with this country.

(via abaldwin360)

Never even heard of this lady, but I want to punch her in the face right about now >.>

(via theanchorholdingyoudownisme)

Honestly thought this was a distasteful joke when I first read it…I’m now extremely disturbed that someone could actually think like this.

(via waitingtocollide)

2 years ago
#Homophobia #Bullying #Hate #LGBT #GSM #Stupidity 
Stop the Hate! I'm Talking to EVERYONE Here!→

violentopposites:

Long, emotional, possibly incoherent rant ahead, TW for lots of stuff:

Edited as of 1:00 AM August 25th, 2011.

I can only speak for myself when I say this, but after seeing lots and lots of hate between asexuals, heterosexuals, and queer-identified people I would like to say that I have NEVER intended to hurt anyone with my words on asexuality, the queer community, the word “queer”, gender and sexual minorities (GSM) in general, and acceptance. I’ve just been trying to state my opinion on a subject in a forum that maybe, just maybe, might allow me to raise awareness and acceptance for people who are hurting and don’t tend to get much attention elsewhere. If my words have been misconstrued to be hateful or hurtful, I’d like to set things straight. If I have hurt anyone, I am very sorry and will try to avoid this in the future.

Read More

3 years ago
#asexual #asexuality #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqa #visibility #gsm #erasure #asexual community #queer community #identity #sexual orientation #respect #the weight of words #open mind