(In case you forget, this was my last message I sent you: I’m sure I’m aromantic, but I don’t think I understand it enough at all so I’m confused. I’ve only ever ever felt lust and friendship for someone. I mean, romantic attraction is still just an ATTRACTION, right? So like, I watch romance movies and I wish I could have a romantic relationship with someone, and I always feel like I can and do (maybe) have romantic attraction, but it gets easily confused with lust. Does this make any sense? If it doesn’t I can submit but do you think I’m aromantic?)

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My biggest problem is it’s so easy to confuse lust with romance. I always fall into relationships purely on lust, but when that withers away like lust usually does, I get completely stuck. I’ve always thought of myself as a hopeless romantic before even discovering what aromantics are, so when I see someone and I believe with all of my heart it is romantic attraction, it always happens to be lust.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, I’ve never ever ever had a pure, true romantic attraction to someone, but I don’t know if I’m incapable of doing so. Like I said, it’s not a true romantic attraction, because lust gets in my way so easily. Lust and squishes are the hardest things to mix together. 

Hopefully this was explained better, asks always make it hard to send everything you want. I can always send this to an aromantic blog/forum, but I don’t follow any yet and I’ve known you guys for forever so it’s just a bit more comfortable I guess. Thank you!

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@9 months ago with 4 notes
#fabjewlous #aromantic #submission #also no matter what i tried the formatting got wonky with the italics sorry 

zweetpea asked: Is it just me and I surround myself with idiots, or has any other ace ever been compared to a plant and said to reproduce with them self when you tell someone you're asexual?

Not just you. This happens all the time.

People don’t seem to realize that that’s really not a witty response and that we’ve heard it before. Several times.

-Griff

@1 year ago with 7 notes
#fabjewlous #ask 

fabjewlous said: I think they might also be thinking about biromantic

I suggested that in their previous ask but no dice, apparently. But thank you.

I’m going to take this reply to once again reiterate that I’m always looking for corrections and extra input, folks, definitely. Please don’t hesitate, I really appreciate it.

-Griff

@1 year ago with 1 note
#fabjewlous 

(In case you forget, this was my last message I sent you: I’m sure I’m aromantic, but I don’t think I understand it enough at all so I’m confused. I’ve only ever ever felt lust and friendship for someone. I mean, romantic attraction is still just an ATTRACTION, right? So like, I watch romance movies and I wish I could have a romantic relationship with someone, and I always feel like I can and do (maybe) have romantic attraction, but it gets easily confused with lust. Does this make any sense? If it doesn’t I can submit but do you think I’m aromantic?)

——-

My biggest problem is it’s so easy to confuse lust with romance. I always fall into relationships purely on lust, but when that withers away like lust usually does, I get completely stuck. I’ve always thought of myself as a hopeless romantic before even discovering what aromantics are, so when I see someone and I believe with all of my heart it is romantic attraction, it always happens to be lust.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, I’ve never ever ever had a pure, true romantic attraction to someone, but I don’t know if I’m incapable of doing so. Like I said, it’s not a true romantic attraction, because lust gets in my way so easily. Lust and squishes are the hardest things to mix together. 

Hopefully this was explained better, asks always make it hard to send everything you want. I can always send this to an aromantic blog/forum, but I don’t follow any yet and I’ve known you guys for forever so it’s just a bit more comfortable I guess. Thank you!

A read more because the reply got sort of long.

Read More

9 months ago
#fabjewlous #aromantic #submission #also no matter what i tried the formatting got wonky with the italics sorry 

fabjewlous said: I think they might also be thinking about biromantic

I suggested that in their previous ask but no dice, apparently. But thank you.

I’m going to take this reply to once again reiterate that I’m always looking for corrections and extra input, folks, definitely. Please don’t hesitate, I really appreciate it.

-Griff

1 year ago
#fabjewlous 

zweetpea asked: Is it just me and I surround myself with idiots, or has any other ace ever been compared to a plant and said to reproduce with them self when you tell someone you're asexual?

Not just you. This happens all the time.

People don’t seem to realize that that’s really not a witty response and that we’ve heard it before. Several times.

-Griff

1 year ago
#fabjewlous #ask