Do things like this annoy you as much as they me?
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@2 weeks ago with 69 notes#asexual #asexuality #ace #submission
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This blog is also body positive, sex positive & LGBT positive.
We do not advocate or tolerate: slut shaming, virgin shaming, body shaming, asexual elitism, homophobia, slurs that intend to hurt or offend.
Do things like this annoy you as much as they me?
(Source: arra-tech)
@2 weeks ago with 69 notesGuys, just adding something to the relationship subject, remember remember to always put yourself first if you’re in a relationship with a sexual person. A lot of them are going to say many very wrong things, often not meaning to hurt you. And if you love them, your mind is going to believe a lot of that even if you really know it’s nonsense. A few years ago I entered a relationship as a pretty confident non-repulsed ace and 3 years later ended it repulsed/terrified of sex. He still doesn’t know that what he did was mental abuse. I’m not trying to scare any of you away from such relationships, I know many of them work out wonderfully and I honestly wish you best of luck there! It’s just a little reminder to watch your step there, try to make things clear from the start in whichever way works for both of you, but please don’t ignore the subject and just hope it works out in the end, I’ve been there and I don’t want any of you going through this, okay? Again, best of luck! <3
(Source: erato-tia-tuatha)
@3 weeks ago with 30 notesI just finished a film called “not Broken Not Alone” which follows the asexual community as they prepare/participate in WorldPride this past summer.
I’m eager to get the film out to festivals worldwide in an effort to increase both visibility but also the broader conversation that I think asexuality brings up. I started a kickstarter cammpaign to raise money for this goal
It would be really appreciated if anyone could help get the word out about this project- there are tons of cool rewards for donating, including a streaming copy of the film, and more! and some cake karma :D
www.kickstarter.com/projects/2080916200/not-broken-not-alone
Thank you! - Rodney
@4 weeks ago with 49 notesThe Asexuality Awareness Program at the Bowling Green State University.
See article here: [x]
@1 month ago with 8 notesWhat is Asexuality? by Meg Malone.
This article talks about asexuality is and what it does and doesn’t entail - [x]
Things you should know about Asexuality. By Jinx.
This is similar to Meg’s article except it’s slightly more detailed and talks about the asexual spectrum’s and levels - [x]
Asexuality should be recognised as a legitimate orientation. By Tracey Hickey.
Tracey talks about the personal experiences of an asexual friend and how often asexuality is overlooked, erased and stigmatised - [x]
Experiencing Asexuality & owning my body. By Jen Stockett.
Jen talks about struggling with her asexuality, Mormonism, gender roles and enduring an abusive marriage in the past - [x]
(Source: asexualeducation)
@1 month ago with 85 notes(Just a note/disclaimer: No, not all asexual spectrum people would be willing to engage in sexual activities, and they should not feel the obligation to do so in anyway under any circumstances. Also, asexual spectrum people experience sexual activities individually, from repulsion to enjoyment, and plenty in between. They can enjoy sex for various reasons, including the enjoyment of sex and the physical pleasure they derive from it. This is not about that.)
When an asexual spectrum individual who has, for example, no desire for sex or does not particularly view it with any interest or particular enjoyment or basically experiences sexual activities in a different way than their partner(s), but willingly consents to engaging in sexual activities with them without being coerced in any way, and you criticize them for their decisions, then you are depriving them of their sexual agency.
When making the assertion that, due to their dissonance in interest or enjoyment or experience, they are serving as nothing more than sex objects/masturbatory aids, then you are dismissing their motivations, feelings, and above all dehumanizing them.
Don’t do that.
An asexual spectrum individual’s sexual choices, behaviors, or experiences are none of your business, they are not your responsibility, and do not need nor warrant your criticism.
It is most definitely true that asexual spectrum individuals do not owe their partners sex under any circumstances, but if they choose to engage in the activity, it is their choice and their right to do so.
Do not try to police what sort of sex they are or aren’t allowed to choose to have because of how some experience sexual activities or attraction or whatnot.
- I will not respond to anything regarding this post because frankly, this debate is ridiculous, and I have neither the energy nor inclination. I just felt the need to toss in some support to a debate that has been raging all day when it really shouldn’t be. do u notice how ive used the word ‘choose’ and ‘choice’ a lot? yeah. take notes.-
It’s okay to want to have sex.
It’s okay to not want to have sex.
It’s okay to want to have sex everyday.
It’s okay to only want sex only under specific circumstances.
It’s okay to want to have sex with lots of people.
It’s okay to want to have sex with just one person.
It’s okay to not be ready for sex.
(Source: asexualeducation)
@3 weeks ago with 262 notesArticle on Asexuality by Cristen Conger.
Read here: [x]
@1 month ago with 19 notesPowerpoint on asexuality.
Article by Shannon Greenwood.
Last week’s Supreme Court hearings on the Defense of Marriage Act and California’s Proposition 8 brought a huge spotlight to the LGBTQ community. With that spotlight came a wave of inclusivity by individuals far and wide, some of whom may not have ever dabbled in LGBTQ activism before. The overwhelming support I have seen brought on by the Supreme Court hearings just happened to coincide perfectly with the start of April, which is celebrated as Pride Month.
Pride Month is exactly what it sounds like. It’s a huge celebration of the LGBTQ community in all of its entirety. Here at MU, the LGBTQ Resource Center is putting together numerous events including Pride Prom, the Let’s Get Loud Drag Show and the Queer Monologues, to name a few.
In honor of the start of Pride Month and the incredible support recently seen due to the Supreme Court cases, I think it’s important to discuss the LGBTQ community as a whole and some of the issues seen by the individual groups who fall within it.
The start of this discussion begins with the notion that we, as humans, need categories. Our minds are constantly taking in information and to keep up with it all, we subconsciously sort things into groups called schemas. Schemas help us process information faster, which is great, except they can also lead to stereotyping and discrimination.
A major reason why the queer community faces discrimination is because the community is sometimes misunderstood. We, as a society, tend to distance ourselves from things we don’t understand — not necessarily because we are not inclusive, but because those differences are foreign and sometimes left unclear.
So, to break this chain of LGBTQ misinformation, I am going to try to define the “queer alphabet soup.” I say “try” because my definitions are in no way exhaustive or even necessary. I wholeheartedly believe defining who you are is done on an individual basis. Some people fit into these definitions, some do not. The thing is, you don’t need to perfectly align with any of these labels in order to be identifiable. My hope in defining these groups is to bring a sense of understanding of the LGBTQ community.
The five letters of LGBTQ stand for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer. Lesbian is a term used for people who identify as women who are attracted to other women. Likewise, a gay man refers to anyone who identifies as a man and is attracted to other men.
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation in which a person can be attracted to both men and women. A common misconception about bisexuality is that it doesn’t even exist. It is sometimes assumed that someone who identifies as bisexual, but has a preference for the opposite sex, might simply be faking it. And if a bisexual has a preference for the same sex, then they’ve still got one foot inside the closet. Both of these are not true. Bisexuals have the ability to be sexually and emotionally attracted to both genders, but that doesn’t mean they’re attracted to everyone.
Transgender is not a sexual orientation, but rather a gender identity. People who are transgender feel they were born into the wrong gender’s body. The transgender community faces discrimination in an assortment of ways, including not being referred to by their preferred name and pronouns as well as being harassed because they don’t fit into societal norms associated with gender.
Queer is a term that encompasses the entirety of the LGBTQ community. Though it used to have a negative connotation, “queer” has been accepted back as a term to refer to anyone within the community.
On top of these five groups, there are several others that fit into the extended LGBTQ acronym including asexual, aromantic, pansexual and intersex. Asexuality is feeling little to no sexual attraction to people, while aromantic is the same thing but with feelings of intimacy. Pansexual, which is sometimes confused with bisexuality, is the attraction to people without regard to gender. The main difference to note is that “pan” means all while “bi” means two. Lastly, intersex refers to someone who was born with reproductive anatomy that doesn’t fit into distinctive classification of male or female.
Last but not least is an ally. An ally is someone who doesn’t necessarily identify as queer but is supportive of equal rights for all. Allies are included in the LGBTQ bubble and can be anyone from straight, cisgender marriage-equality activists to gay men promoting trans rights to trans women protesting discrimination against bisexuals. Anyone can be an ally; I think that’s an important thing to note as we begin our month-long celebration. Pride Month is about showing pride for all aspects of the queer community, and we do that by first and foremost being allies with ourselves and with each other.
(Source: themaneater.com)
@1 month ago with 8 notes(Just a note/disclaimer: No, not all asexual spectrum people would be willing to engage in sexual activities, and they should not feel the obligation to do so in anyway under any circumstances. Also, asexual spectrum people experience sexual activities individually, from repulsion to enjoyment, and plenty in between. They can enjoy sex for various reasons, including the enjoyment of sex and the physical pleasure they derive from it. This is not about that.)
When an asexual spectrum individual who has, for example, no desire for sex or does not particularly view it with any interest or particular enjoyment or basically experiences sexual activities in a different way than their partner(s), but willingly consents to engaging in sexual activities with them without being coerced in any way, and you criticize them for their decisions, then you are depriving them of their sexual agency.
When making the assertion that, due to their dissonance in interest or enjoyment or experience, they are serving as nothing more than sex objects/masturbatory aids, then you are dismissing their motivations, feelings, and above all dehumanizing them.
Don’t do that.
An asexual spectrum individual’s sexual choices, behaviors, or experiences are none of your business, they are not your responsibility, and do not need nor warrant your criticism.
It is most definitely true that asexual spectrum individuals do not owe their partners sex under any circumstances, but if they choose to engage in the activity, it is their choice and their right to do so.
Do not try to police what sort of sex they are or aren’t allowed to choose to have because of how some experience sexual activities or attraction or whatnot.
- I will not respond to anything regarding this post because frankly, this debate is ridiculous, and I have neither the energy nor inclination. I just felt the need to toss in some support to a debate that has been raging all day when it really shouldn’t be. do u notice how ive used the word ‘choose’ and ‘choice’ a lot? yeah. take notes.-
Guys, just adding something to the relationship subject, remember remember to always put yourself first if you’re in a relationship with a sexual person. A lot of them are going to say many very wrong things, often not meaning to hurt you. And if you love them, your mind is going to believe a lot of that even if you really know it’s nonsense. A few years ago I entered a relationship as a pretty confident non-repulsed ace and 3 years later ended it repulsed/terrified of sex. He still doesn’t know that what he did was mental abuse. I’m not trying to scare any of you away from such relationships, I know many of them work out wonderfully and I honestly wish you best of luck there! It’s just a little reminder to watch your step there, try to make things clear from the start in whichever way works for both of you, but please don’t ignore the subject and just hope it works out in the end, I’ve been there and I don’t want any of you going through this, okay? Again, best of luck! <3
(Source: erato-tia-tuatha)
It’s okay to want to have sex.
It’s okay to not want to have sex.
It’s okay to want to have sex everyday.
It’s okay to only want sex only under specific circumstances.
It’s okay to want to have sex with lots of people.
It’s okay to want to have sex with just one person.
It’s okay to not be ready for sex.
(Source: asexualeducation)
I just finished a film called “not Broken Not Alone” which follows the asexual community as they prepare/participate in WorldPride this past summer.
I’m eager to get the film out to festivals worldwide in an effort to increase both visibility but also the broader conversation that I think asexuality brings up. I started a kickstarter cammpaign to raise money for this goal
It would be really appreciated if anyone could help get the word out about this project- there are tons of cool rewards for donating, including a streaming copy of the film, and more! and some cake karma :D
www.kickstarter.com/projects/2080916200/not-broken-not-alone
Thank you! - Rodney
The Asexuality Awareness Program at the Bowling Green State University.
See article here: [x]
What is Asexuality? by Meg Malone.
This article talks about asexuality is and what it does and doesn’t entail - [x]
Things you should know about Asexuality. By Jinx.
This is similar to Meg’s article except it’s slightly more detailed and talks about the asexual spectrum’s and levels - [x]
Asexuality should be recognised as a legitimate orientation. By Tracey Hickey.
Tracey talks about the personal experiences of an asexual friend and how often asexuality is overlooked, erased and stigmatised - [x]
Experiencing Asexuality & owning my body. By Jen Stockett.
Jen talks about struggling with her asexuality, Mormonism, gender roles and enduring an abusive marriage in the past - [x]
(Source: asexualeducation)
Article by Shannon Greenwood.
Last week’s Supreme Court hearings on the Defense of Marriage Act and California’s Proposition 8 brought a huge spotlight to the LGBTQ community. With that spotlight came a wave of inclusivity by individuals far and wide, some of whom may not have ever dabbled in LGBTQ activism before. The overwhelming support I have seen brought on by the Supreme Court hearings just happened to coincide perfectly with the start of April, which is celebrated as Pride Month.
Pride Month is exactly what it sounds like. It’s a huge celebration of the LGBTQ community in all of its entirety. Here at MU, the LGBTQ Resource Center is putting together numerous events including Pride Prom, the Let’s Get Loud Drag Show and the Queer Monologues, to name a few.
In honor of the start of Pride Month and the incredible support recently seen due to the Supreme Court cases, I think it’s important to discuss the LGBTQ community as a whole and some of the issues seen by the individual groups who fall within it.
The start of this discussion begins with the notion that we, as humans, need categories. Our minds are constantly taking in information and to keep up with it all, we subconsciously sort things into groups called schemas. Schemas help us process information faster, which is great, except they can also lead to stereotyping and discrimination.
A major reason why the queer community faces discrimination is because the community is sometimes misunderstood. We, as a society, tend to distance ourselves from things we don’t understand — not necessarily because we are not inclusive, but because those differences are foreign and sometimes left unclear.
So, to break this chain of LGBTQ misinformation, I am going to try to define the “queer alphabet soup.” I say “try” because my definitions are in no way exhaustive or even necessary. I wholeheartedly believe defining who you are is done on an individual basis. Some people fit into these definitions, some do not. The thing is, you don’t need to perfectly align with any of these labels in order to be identifiable. My hope in defining these groups is to bring a sense of understanding of the LGBTQ community.
The five letters of LGBTQ stand for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer. Lesbian is a term used for people who identify as women who are attracted to other women. Likewise, a gay man refers to anyone who identifies as a man and is attracted to other men.
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation in which a person can be attracted to both men and women. A common misconception about bisexuality is that it doesn’t even exist. It is sometimes assumed that someone who identifies as bisexual, but has a preference for the opposite sex, might simply be faking it. And if a bisexual has a preference for the same sex, then they’ve still got one foot inside the closet. Both of these are not true. Bisexuals have the ability to be sexually and emotionally attracted to both genders, but that doesn’t mean they’re attracted to everyone.
Transgender is not a sexual orientation, but rather a gender identity. People who are transgender feel they were born into the wrong gender’s body. The transgender community faces discrimination in an assortment of ways, including not being referred to by their preferred name and pronouns as well as being harassed because they don’t fit into societal norms associated with gender.
Queer is a term that encompasses the entirety of the LGBTQ community. Though it used to have a negative connotation, “queer” has been accepted back as a term to refer to anyone within the community.
On top of these five groups, there are several others that fit into the extended LGBTQ acronym including asexual, aromantic, pansexual and intersex. Asexuality is feeling little to no sexual attraction to people, while aromantic is the same thing but with feelings of intimacy. Pansexual, which is sometimes confused with bisexuality, is the attraction to people without regard to gender. The main difference to note is that “pan” means all while “bi” means two. Lastly, intersex refers to someone who was born with reproductive anatomy that doesn’t fit into distinctive classification of male or female.
Last but not least is an ally. An ally is someone who doesn’t necessarily identify as queer but is supportive of equal rights for all. Allies are included in the LGBTQ bubble and can be anyone from straight, cisgender marriage-equality activists to gay men promoting trans rights to trans women protesting discrimination against bisexuals. Anyone can be an ally; I think that’s an important thing to note as we begin our month-long celebration. Pride Month is about showing pride for all aspects of the queer community, and we do that by first and foremost being allies with ourselves and with each other.
(Source: themaneater.com)
