calamuscrest asked: So I told someone I was asexual panromantic, and they completely flipped out- "everyone wants sex!" "no, there's only two genders!" etc., etc. Do you know of a way i could explain to them what i mean by asexual panromantic to them while keeping it short?

Unfortunately, there are always going to be arrogant people who won’t accept this, even with careful explanations.

The shortest way to explain to them would be that you are sexually attracted to no genders and romantically attracted to all, but it sounds like you might have already said something like that, if their response is anything to go by.

Explaining it to them and getting them to accept it are two different battles, and may not work at all. My best advice would be to direct them to asexual websites such as AVEN and, while wikipedia isn’t the best source, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity that might give them a good look that the idea of more than two genders is pretty prevalent.

I would be very careful about which sites you direct them to about the gender thing, though, because a lot of the sites refer to them as medical or psychological issues.

It’s always difficult to explain to people who don’t want to learn, so you should also know that you do not owe them any explanations or anything. So if you begin to become stressed if they refuse to accept anything you tell them, you don’t have to continue trying to persuade them.

If anyone knows of good sources (either about asexuality or gender identities) to share, please do.

-Griff

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