Anonymous asked: I'm asexual. I don't feel sexual attraction, but I do feel aesthetic and romantic attraction, and sometimes sensual attraction. I know people who understand asexuality dislike this stereotype - but I was also sexually abused when I was 9. This makes me wonder if I truly am the 1% of the population that is asexual, or not. My university counsellor told me that I should seek therapy if I can't be intimate with people. I'd rather accept being ace. Is that right or is cowardly?
I am in no way an expert in this at all.
But first off, sexual abuse does not invalidate anyone’s asexuality. This would be true even if the abuse is potentially the cause.
That said, while it is not inherently problematic for you to be both asexual and abused, this is not always the case.
It would be an issue that you should seek help for if intimacy of that nature causes an unhealthy reaction or negative response with you. If it disrupts your life or negatively affects your mental/emotional health, then I would suggest seeing someone.
If you don’t feel like this is negatively impacting your life, however, then you shouldn’t have to change anything you don’t want to.
-Griff@11 months ago with 1 note