One of the main reasons I assumed I was straight, and didn’t really discover anything under the asexual umbrella was because of things I was told when I was still rather young. Pretty much from when I learned how sex worked, though the puberty years of middle school, I would periodically talk to my mom about how I felt about sex. Or mostly, that I couldn’t really fathom wanting sex with another person. I was always told, with the best of intentions, that my feelings would change when I was older/when I got a boyfriend.
Despite my mom treating it like something that I was just going to grow out of, I noted that if I did talk about my lack of.. sexual interest.. with others, they tended to laugh (not cruelly), be confused/disbelieving, and generally thought I was just cute and innocent.
Now that I’m older, its really nice having a vocabulary I can use to describe myself. Words like “demisexual”, “grey a”, “primary/secondary sexual attraction” make a profound difference, even though I essentially feel the same way I always did.
I think its silly that there are people insisting demisexuality isn’t valid. I mean, sheesh, I’ve known I was this since I was a child, all that’s changed is there’s a word for it. How is that ‘invalid’ or being a ‘special snowflake’? And if you see no real difference between demisexuality and being straight, gay, lesbian, bi, or pan, well it doesn’t really hurt you if I consider demisexual to be a more accurate label.
I just think its important to remind people: You are valid. What you feel is valid. No one else knows what YOU feel, and they cannot tell you that your feelings are something other than what you know them to be. <3
(Source: ladyknightt)
@1 year ago with 45 notes#demisexual
