"Asexuals are very vulnerable to a certain kind of rape culture — the type where in a romantic relationship you owe sex to your partner, because refusing to have sex is bad and wrong and abusive. And in asexual communities, there’s a lot of talk about compromise — essentially, having sex with your partner even though you yourself don’t have an intrinsic desire for it. As you can imagine, this can go to very bad places. This is another discussion a lot of sex-positive spaces don’t manage very well, because there’s often very little empathy for the asexual partner (or, in related discussions, the partner with less sexual desire) in that situation. In fact, they are frequently demonised when this comes up."
@1 year ago with 1081 notes
An Asexual Map for Sex Positive Feminism (via fivetail)
How the fuck is not having sex with your partner abusive?
Urgh I can’t even-
Why would anyone even think that?
If you don’t want to have sex with your partner then that is yoru choice and they should respect that. Relationships aren’t just about sex, y’know.
My mother told me that if one of the partners refuses sex in a relationship that partner is being abusive and just let it happen (translation: your partner is allowed to rape you) after I told her I was asexual. Then she was worried I might have been sexually assaulted/raped. Laughing bitterly over here right now. :|