@1 year ago with 6 notes
Even for just a month. Seriously, the drama and shitstorm is getting ridiculous. I am not denying there are valid issues on both sides. I’m not denying that things need talked about and discussed. But it’s getting to be too much, and people are getting too mad, and nothing is getting accomplished.
So how about we all take a month and just stop. Take a break. No fighting, whatsoever. No name calling, threats, arguments, etc. (And the first two should never happen anyway, thought that was common sense). Discussions, in a calm and constructive manner are always welcome, unless someone involved has issues. I’m not pointing any fingers, I’m not naming any names, and I’m not going to bring up the various issues.
Right now, everyone is mad. Everyone is reacting in anger, misunderstandings are being made, and no one is actually talking that’s getting listened to. And the angriest ones are the ones shouting loudest, and the ones helping the least. So let’s all just stop. One month, of no fighting. If someone starts to fight, or tries to start something, ignore them. If someone wants to calmly discuss something, don’t just block them and ignore. Even if you say “I’m taking a break, not doing this right now”, don’t just ignore them, on either side.
Now, I’ve been staying vocally out of the entire debate, but I’ve been following it for awhile. I don’t know how it started, or when it got to this level, exactly. But it’s there now, on a few different issues. And it’s wearing people down and getting personal. So let’s just stop the fighting. One month, that’s it. Then go back to arguing, whatever. Or, maybe without the fighting, we’ll actually be able to figure something out in that month. Compromise, or find solutions, without erasing anyone or offending anyone.
We have issues to deal with. On both sides of the debate. But we’re not dealing with them right now, we’re just seeing who can yell loudest.
The ask box on this specific tumblr is open, and will remain open. Anonymous is on. And the submit box is open as well, for links or longer messages, whatever. If you want to come to me (agender, female bodied, fine with female pronouns, attracted to women, demisexual, has had sex, identified as lesbian before finding demisexuality and later realizing my total lack of gender) then fine, I’ll answer, and discuss calmly. Start fighting/arguing/attacking, and those I will ignore.
Basically, discussions are good, drama and yelling are bad, and not accomplishing anything.
#asexual #asexuality #demisexuality #queer #demisexual #demi #ace #can we please stop fighting?