April 2012
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Anonymous asked: I can imagine other people having sex, (& also get turned on by it) but the thought of me having sex with another person is close to impossible. I just imagine being very uncomfortable and getting away when I can (especially if I'm not really close to them). Is this a trait of demisexuality? Do asexuals experience something similar/the same thing?
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Anonymous asked: In response to the anon asking about wanting to look 'sexy', I like to look good, but I like to look good for me. I don't make that much of an effort most days, but if it's a special occasion I think it makes it more special if I spend a bit of time making myself look good.
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Anonymous asked: to the last anon: i think it's fine for asexuals to want to look nice. when you're looked at like you're, you know, sexy, it gives a kind of empowerment and it kind of puts a spring in your step, even if you wouldn't want to have sex with the people looking. it's just the feeling of being looked at like you're attractive that's so nice.
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Anonymous asked: Sorry if this one doesn't make much sense, but the other day, someone told me that "dressing up and looking sexy" was pointless for me and that I shouldn't bother. (Admittedly, I was late because I was taking extra care in picking my clothes). Do any other aces out there have opinions on presenting as "sexy"? I know I feel good when I look good, but is it really...
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Anonymous asked: Hm...Well, based on those descriptions of romantic attraction and what I've read elsewhere, I'm starting to think I might be aromantic as well.
wowomggg-deactivated20130331 asked: haha, oh man. i came out as asexual to a friend of mine and he was insistent that he just needed to use his (i'm not even kidding) *~magic touch~* and then i wouldn't be asexual anymore. he finally wore me down and pressured me into doing dumb things with him and now i've become even more apprehensive about sex. a lot of people are the same way. I just wanted to say that aces have...
wowomggg-deactivated20130331 asked: i feel like romantic attraction is a lot like what you feel when you want to become someone's friend. but it's a lot deeper than that. you want to be their best friend but even deeper than that??? man, i can't even explain it myself!
coming out
morningchorus:
Typical response for asexuals: “Are you sure it’s not just a phase?” “You just need to get laid.” “Maybe you have a medical problem?”
Typical response for LGBT: “Get out, you’re not longer part of this family.” “You’re not gay, we have to fix you.” including beatings and death.
yeah, asexies, you’re totally oppressed by us.
TW: Rape, molestation, suicide, bullying.
You...
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Anonymous asked: To me, the biggest part of romantic attraction is just desperately wanting to feel loved by whoever I'm feeling it towards. It's hard to describe, but when I feel that way towards someone, I want to feel like I'm the center of their universe; like they WANT to be close to me and know me and just care for me because I'm... me, and me being me makes me special to them.
dwgeek asked: For me, romantic attraction is looking at someone and thinking "I really like you, and I'd like to know you more, and ask you out, and it'd be awesome if, at some point, we hugged."
aseofspades asked: For me, romantic attraction is "I've known you for a long time now and feel like I can trust you with everything there is to share with you, and I'd love to cuddle, hold hands, sit in your lap, and maybe share a bed if you want. I just want to always be with you and cherish you."
Anonymous asked: for the other anon, romantic attraction for me is like "hey, you're really cool and nice and funny and smart. i think i'd like to get to know you even more and never keep any secrets from you and just spend a lot of time with you just talking. you're a pretty great person." it's kind of weird for me, i don't know if everyone's like that or not. :x
Media imagery of asexuality
aceupyoursleeve:
background images from articles in Nerve, Marie Claire, and Folha.
There’s been a recent discussion about the cover of a potential asexual romance anthology, The Heart of Aces. Everything has already been said, but it reminded me of something else that I wanted to do. So here’s an analysis of the imagery that the media considers appropriate to accompany articles about...
Anonymous asked: Is it possible to describe what romantic attraction feels like?
Anonymous asked: A few nights ago, I sat up in bed and nearly yelped because the realization that I may be bi-romantic hit me like a train. I identify (used to?? I don't even know.) as hetero-romantic, but lately I've been imagining myself in a romantic relationship with both males and females, and being totally happy. I just don't even know how to begin sorting out my thoughts/feelings, much less...
Anonymous asked: I'm finding it increasingly unlikely that I'll ever find an asexual guy I'm legitimately interested in to have a relationship with, which leads me to be seriously depressed most of the time. I can't even have conversations with people about their relationships without feeling a pang of despair. Got any advice or anything?
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explodingmuffins asked: I am definitely in a constant state of sensual frustration! I know that feel, anon. It has been far too long since I've gotten some good cuddles.
