June 2012
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Anonymous asked: Is it bad to not release sexual energy? Sometimes I have a build up but have no desire to fulfill it. Do you think that could be bad for my health?
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Anonymous asked: Do you know any books or movies that have asexual characters?
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Anonymous asked: Right! This is something that has been confusing me quite a lot. I class myself as an asexual because I have so sexual desires or attraction. However if I'm kissing someone, cuddling etc then (This is extremely awkward to say) but my body reacts in the sense of it gets ready for intercourse.. I don't want to have sex and I don't feel any desires to.. Is that a norm thing? Does the...
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Anonymous asked: Is it possible to explain more on grey-a please?
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You know the drill →
So, about the previous post, I do always read the replies and stuff, so along with any corrections or opinions (that I always heartily welcome), if you guys want me to make any asks rebloggable let me know.
-Griff
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Anonymous asked: What is arousal? Does arousal...
(Made rebloggable by request.)
Arousal is simply a physiological response to certain stimulus. Both the arousal and the stimulus can be either physical or mental or both.
There can be different kinds of arousal, too, so it’s not always sexual. So I think it can be totally possible to experience sensual arousal, whatever that means to you.
And yes, sensual activities have nothing to do with...
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Anonymous asked: What is arousal? Does arousal have to be sexual? Can one experience sensual arousal and still be asexual?
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Anonymous asked: With the survey that said 1% of the population is asexual, I think it's more than that. A lot of people don't think asexuality is a thing/think something is wrong with it so even if they ARE asexual, they won't come up as such on a survey. Others don't know about it and don't discuss things like sex drive and sexual attraction and just think, "well I'm not...
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Anonymous asked: Hi, I know asexuals have romantic orientations and I'm not sure If I'm Hetroromatic or Aromatic because I find guys attractive... yet I don't want to date them. In fact I don't think I want to date at all. So what does that make me?
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Anonymous asked: What do you think of the Human Rights Campaign? They don't seem to have much material on asexuality.
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Carnival of Aces
Hi, I hope this is ok to submit, but I wanted to spread the word about Carnival of Aces, being hosted at my blog this month. It’s a blog carnival for posts related to asexuality. This month’s theme is “compulsory sexuality.” You can find more information here.
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Anonymous asked: Hello, I am with my boyfriend who i have known for 2 years now but only started dating for around 6 months. He told me he considers himself an Asexual. At first i thought he can't be this because we have sex and in the beginning of our relationship we were having a lot of it but after a few months we barely have sex once a week! My question is how many times do Asexuals who are in...
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Opening the Ace chat! →
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Anonymous asked: Forgive me but I'm somewhat confused. I read a post saying that asexuals can have a sex drive (which I get) and have sex with pleasure (again I get that) at the same time. What I don't completely understand is what the qualification is at that point to be asexual. I don't want to sound like a bigot or anything. I really just don't understand. I also don't want to call...
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There seems to be this common misconception that...
metapianycist:
As an asexual person who experiences libido and likes some sexual activities, please stop equating attraction with behavior and labeling me without my consent.
My behavior doesn’t make my asexuality gray. Gray asexuality is about experiencing gray-sexual attraction, or experiencing sexual attraction very infrequently. The first three bullet points on AVENwiki’s Gray-A page...
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FACT: It is impossible for asexuals to be seduced...
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PSA: No sexual orientation is superior to other...
blackandwhitestriped:
…because I keep seeing really embarrassing conflicts between asexual people and non-asexual people…
Being asexual doesn’t make you a better person because you have more time to think about other things besides sex, because your relationships are more pure or enlightened than sexual ones, or whatever other ridiculous reasons you’re inventing. Stop that. First of all,...
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my-happy-medium asked: ok so pardon my ignorance since I'm new to the whole asexual game here (meaning i just recently learned what it really was) but it seems like the term "asexual" has a lot of gray area. like, just about anyone could be considered asexual at any point in time? It just seems kind of silly to put all these different labels on our sexuality when it can be so fluid, I dunno. And it has me...
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Anonymous asked: My significant other describes himself as asexual. He's repulsed by straight sex but he reads and watches gay porn a LOT. He very clearly shows signs of arousal and described to me once that he 'honestly wanted to fuck the shit out of me' but said that his body and his emotions weren't agreeing with his mind. I would think this would be described as celibate or maybe gray-a...
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Anonymous asked: I don't know if this pertains to asexuality, but could you explain what "libido" means?
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TINYCHAT!
TINNNNYYYYYCHAAAAAT
http://tinychat.com/rlnev
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Anonymous asked: I've seen a lot of questions that have been too detailed for an answer here, so I hope mine is simple enough. I 'like' to consider myself asexual panromantic, I think everyone can be beautiful but I have no desire to sleep with any of them. The idea of sex, in general, actually kind of disturbs me. Am I using the terms 'correctly'? Or, at least not incorrectly? I know a...
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calamuscrest asked: So I told someone I was asexual panromantic, and they completely flipped out- "everyone wants sex!" "no, there's only two genders!" etc., etc. Do you know of a way i could explain to them what i mean by asexual panromantic to them while keeping it short?
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Wipe Out Homophobia Website Adds Asexuality Page →
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Tinychat?
tinychat.com/noteddie
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Anonymous asked: I didn't know what else to call it before I discovered the term "asexual" and I found relief in knowing I'm not the only one who doesn't feel attracted to anyone. I don't know why I don't feel this "feeling." I just want to know how people usually react? What do most people think? I'm sorry, I'm new to accepting this.
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Tinychat
tinychat.com/noteddie
“If you are having a lot of sex, and you are enjoying it, obviously I’m not going...”
– Dr Petra Boynton (Life after lust – the appeal of sexless marriage | Life and style | The Guardian)
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I feel that the “everybody fucks” mentality in sexual health/sexual education communities is dangerous to asexuals, people with low/no libido, or anyone else who has little/no interest in actually having sex for whatever reason. Here’s why: When the person sees that, they immediately think “oh, this isn’t a place/community for someone like me” and turn away....
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Anonymous asked: Thank you, thank you, thank you for running this blog. I don't know what I would have done without your frank answers or clearly-laid-out FAQ. Thank you, thank you for existing. Bless you.
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Anonymous asked: I'm an asexual with anxiety/depression. I was just curious as to how the tinychats are. I really want to join but I'm so scared!
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Anonymous asked: I told a friend i am close to that i am asexual and he made the jump/conclusion that i was sexually abused and this is a result of trauma are there any articles or anything i could possibly link him to to show him how much of an ass he is being?
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TINYCHAT!
GO! tinychat.com/noteddie
(Also unrelated modnote: I’ve been sorting through all of the remaining asks in the inbox seeing which ones need answering and also trying to come up with adequate answers for others that I can’t seem to write properly at the moment. So asks will be answered, it’s just taking a bit. Sorry for the inconvenience. -Griff)
May 2012
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Tinychat!
tinychat.com/noteddie Goooo!
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FACT: Since asexuals often don't "get lucky", they...
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JC Penney Responds to Homophobic Boycott Calls... →
fuckyeahsodomites:
In what appears to be a direct response to the failed boycott campaign of anti-gay group One Million Moms, JCPenney yesterday unveiled a new Father’s Day ad featuring a same-sex couple playing with their children.
According to the company, the two men who appear in the ad are “real-life dads Todd Koch and Cooper Smith,” and the jubilant children are their kids, Claire and...
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c0nflicting:
Society needs to learn both that asexuality is not synonymous with aromanticism and more importantly, that romance and sex are not intrinsically linked. Sex cannot turn you on to romance, if you’re aromantic. Romance cannot turn you onto sex, if you’re asexual. By which I mean, your orientation is not determined by the acts in which your partake. Liking sex doesn’t change your...
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(A)sexual: Support The Creator
asexual-not-a-sexual:
H’okay guys, turns out that the copy of (A)sexual on youtube was put up without the creator’s permission.
Which ain’t cool, and I wont condone that kinda shit.
The fact that there is a documentary about asexuality is absolutely fantastic, and we should support the filmmakers who took the time and effort to create it.
So, please:
Don’t watch the Youtube link.
Wait...
