April 2012
Anonymous asked: Thank you. I'm sure you sometimes get sick of all the people asking if they're ace when y'all have an faq ;;
TRANS COUCHSURFING NETWORK - PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST... →
transcouchnetwork:
Hi! I just started a tumblr, the Transgender Couchsurfing Network. After seeing dozens of posts come across my dash about displaced or homeless trans people needing places to crash, I decided that there had to be a way to organize these posts somehow, and to put those in need in contact with those willing to lend a hand. If you’re trans and need a place to stay, or if you...
Anonymous asked: Okay, I have a legit question 'cause I went to your faq and I just confused myself.I don't really find people sexually attractive. I say I want to kiss them, and sometimes, I wanna just make out with someone 'cause they're cute. But sex? No, I just don't feel the need to ever go that far. But I have had sex with my boyfriend, but that's only because he said he wanted...
Summary of that new study (heterosexual views of...
unsettleddaily:
Accessed via my school’s VPN. I won’t be making it available, but I can summarize it!
“Intergroup bias toward “Group X”: Evidence of prejudice, dehumanization, avoidance, and discrimination against asexuals” Cara C. MacInnis and Gordon Hodson
Will write in this as I go along (issues/important points).
Background/hypotheses:
First definition of asexuality they gave was...
ankutsu asked: Is it possible to be asexual /and/ aromantic? Or are most one or the other?
Anonymous asked: What do you with people who say "asexuality is a valid identity, but NOT a sexual orientation"? What's worse is that they say this in response to posts from asexual things (blogs and whatnot), so they should know better if they actually read it. (They seem to be conflating repulsion with asexuality, from what I can see in their posts where they say this.)
Anonymous asked: Wanting to touch people is called sensual attraction, right? Basically, my situation is: With people, I'm "grey" at best; sometimes I want to hug or hold hands or have my back scratched or sit real close, but most of the time I don't. But with most animals (there are limitations), I love to pet and hug and cuddle and kiss them (on the head), and that takes care of any...
Anonymous asked: I have no desire for a romantic or sexual relationship, but I don't know if I'm asexual or aromantic in the slightest. Everything about the asexuality/aromantic spectrum confuses me, I can't make heads or tails of any of it. Can you explain it in a dumbed down way for me?
Just a quick note,
I’d like to give my sincerest apologies for my absence lately. It just crept up on me; I’ve basically been bedridden and I wasn’t expecting it to put me down for this long. I’m expecting it to continue for another couple of days, though, but I am making an effort to address all the asks I have the ability to answer as soon as I can.
Terribly sorry for...
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Anonymous asked: I don't feel attracted to people before I know them well and when I do feel attracted to someone, I only want to kiss or cuddle. I'm not really sure what that means I count as.
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Anonymous asked: how do you distinguish between being "in a phase" and being actually asexual?
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Anonymous asked: I need help. I just came out to my friend and tried explaining asexuality to my friend as best I could and how my family doesn't believe me. The weird thing is, I'm not sure if HE believes me or not. He's never heard of it before, so that's one thing, but he encouraged to go experiment first. (It might be noteworthy that I am a virgin and have never been in anything close to a...
“Instead of saying, ‘Asexuality doesn’t exist,’ try saying, ‘Asexuality is a...”
– Asexual Awareness Week’s advice to the Trevor project, from the two-page document drafted by Sara Beth Brooks (pearlsfromthewest). (via lunasspecto)
lord-kitschener:
There are people who actually think that the Trevor Project’s inclusion of training materials on asexuality is a ploy by asexual groups to evangelize to, prey upon, and convert young LGBT+ people to lives repression and celibacy.
Or it could be that they’ve added a few pages saying things like “If a kid calls in asking about asexuality, don’t say ‘Oh, it’s just a phase,’...
AVEN Digest - 23rd April 2012
avenpt:
AVEN Digest - 23rd April 2012
Visibility:
A panel of AVENites will take part in a Sunday Conversation on asexuality at the Metropolitan Community Church of New York in May: http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/73773-discussion-on-asexuality-and-spirituality-and-other-topics/
Community:
There will be a meetup in Manchester (UK) on Saturday 28th April:...
The Subtle Nuances of Human Sexuality
asexy-april:
Author: twisted-dendrites
Fandom: Homestuck
Pairing: Dave/John
Chapters: 3
Rating: T (just for general swearing, but if you read Homestuck, it’s nothing new)
Summary: John figures out he is asexual, and that his feelings for Dave extend beyond friendship.
Read on deviantart
Anonymous asked: I always knew I existed somewhere on the asexual spectrum but I always felt like a lie to asexuals because I didn't feel fully comfortable with saying I was asexual and it just didn't feel right. When I started looking into aromanticism, nothing has felt more right. EVER. But I almost want to be in denial because I always assumed myself as a hopeless romantic, and it's probably just...
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Anonymous asked: Hi, I saw very strange posts on tumblr recently linkinkg asexuality to homophobia. I don't quite understand it, because I believe asexuality has nothing to do with homophobia at all. Besides, asexuality doesn't even depend on sexual orientation. Am I right? It makes me sad to see so much hate. I'm asexual, and tolerance is the most important thing in my life.
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Stuff Queer People Need To Know: Another long list... →
Anonymous asked: Hey why are you guys slut shaming? That's disgusting and misogynistic
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Anonymous asked: If you are aromantic and you want to be in a queer-platonic relationship with someone of the same gender, can you identify as a queer aromantic?
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Anonymous asked: The anonymous that feel sexual attraction without desire to have sex with someone: If I'm not mistaken, isn't that low-lobido?
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Anonymous asked: I feel sexually and romantically attracted to others but the thing is I don't feel the urge to have sex with them. I love cuddling and kissing and touching each other but I hate having sex with someone. I know I am kind of a freak. But I wonder.. Is there any word to describe my sexuality?
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Anonymous asked: I like watching Studio Ghibli films because I can relate them with asexuality (even if it's unintentional), because there are a lot of movies involving two people that don't end up in sexual or romantic relationships, and it's just so refreshing. I wonder if other people feel the same or agree?
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Anonymous asked: I've been questioning my romantic orientation a lot recently, so I scoured the internet for clues as to the difference between friendship and romance. I read that the main difference between a friendship and a romance is the feeling of "us" instead of "you and I." It's like you're not two separate individuals who share a bond, but two halves that make a whole....
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Anonymous asked: can you be in a QP relationship and a romantic relationship at the same time? with different people, i mean. or is that like 'cheating'?
New York Metropolitan Community Church of New York... →
ace-reporter:
I know the real life first name of one of these people, I think, but unless it is someone who has already given out his or her first name online, it’s better to use their aliases.
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Anonymous asked: Do you think there's any asexual merchandise at the Village in NY? I know they have everything else for the LGBT community.
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Anonymous asked: Seeing I want kids when I'm older, and no-one gives a damn about us Aces; would it be easier if I just pretend I am straight ?(I am hetro romantic) Am I doomed to a life of 'laying back and thinking of England' because no one gives a dam about me because I am ,not oppressed enough'? Because right now that how I feel, that no-one will take me seriously or listen to me. Not...
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Anonymous asked: Quick question about being aromantic. I have a squish on this one guy and it's what made me realize I was aromantic. I've never just wanted to be with someone to genuinely be with someone. I want to be his best friend. I want just to share memories with him. I want to not have a sexual relationship with him or cuddle or hold hands but I want to call him mine. I'm not asexual and I...
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Anonymous asked: Is there a demiromantic tumblr? There's always the tag but I'm curious about a curated tumblr just for/about demiromantics...
Demisexuality: Anyone still have any characters to... →
demisexuality:
Made this post last week: http://demisexuality.tumblr.com/post/21069575530/wanted-list-of-fictional-female-and-non-binary-ace
I’ve gotten some feedback, but none for the last couple of days, so I’m assuming that may be due to the original post getting buried on my site and in the tags.
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Anonymous asked: I can't figure out if I'm gray- or aromantic.
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Anonymous asked: before i discovered asexuality i couldn't even picture myself with anyone at all! even heavy petting and making out and stuff. no matter what gender or anything, i just couldn't do it. when i actually did sexual things, the memories were hazy and i couldn't even picture myself /in a memory/ it was really odd. even masturbating was a little weird. i was focused more on the way i was...
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Anonymous asked: Are there many Christian asexuals out there? And my "Christian," I mean "Christ-follower" not "deist." It just feels like people use my religion against my (a)sexuality too often.
To prevent spamming, these are responses to the “dressing up sexy” ask:
venthepirate said: I love dressing and looking sexy - as in tight tailored clothing, that makes me look good, doing my hair etc. If it makes you feel good, it makes you feel good.
queertransformation said: Dressing “sexy” definitely can be important for everyone - not in a ‘get the other people’ sense, but...
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Asexual POC
thisblognotyetrated:
Where you at? I know it ain’t just me!
http://asexualpocsunite.tumblr.com/
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Anonymous asked: I can imagine other people having sex, (& also get turned on by it) but the thought of me having sex with another person is close to impossible. I just imagine being very uncomfortable and getting away when I can (especially if I'm not really close to them). Is this a trait of demisexuality? Do asexuals experience something similar/the same thing?
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Anonymous asked: In response to the anon asking about wanting to look 'sexy', I like to look good, but I like to look good for me. I don't make that much of an effort most days, but if it's a special occasion I think it makes it more special if I spend a bit of time making myself look good.
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Anonymous asked: to the last anon: i think it's fine for asexuals to want to look nice. when you're looked at like you're, you know, sexy, it gives a kind of empowerment and it kind of puts a spring in your step, even if you wouldn't want to have sex with the people looking. it's just the feeling of being looked at like you're attractive that's so nice.
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Queerplatonic Advice Blog →
Just signal boosting for them, it’s pretty new. Any relationship and/or queerplatonic questions are still welcome here of course, but options are good.
-Griff
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Anonymous asked: Sorry if this one doesn't make much sense, but the other day, someone told me that "dressing up and looking sexy" was pointless for me and that I shouldn't bother. (Admittedly, I was late because I was taking extra care in picking my clothes). Do any other aces out there have opinions on presenting as "sexy"? I know I feel good when I look good, but is it really...
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Anonymous asked: Hm...Well, based on those descriptions of romantic attraction and what I've read elsewhere, I'm starting to think I might be aromantic as well.
