March 2012
I feel like I'll disappoint my parents if I don't...
ferrets-over-cats:
My grandma has told me time and time again that before she dies she wants to see me “a grown woman, married, and with children”.
I don’t know if I’ll do any of those. She’s only 60 so she has all the time in the world, hopefully, but..
It’s troublesome.
Oh God, that’s a lot of pressure to put on someone D:
Grandmothers are funny like that though.
I bet mine...
further clarifications concerning aromantic...
mimiinadream:
We are not “broken”.
We are not heartless.
We are not “late bloomers”.
Our hormones are not flawed.
Most of us have human bonding needs too.
Squishes are not a diluted version of crushes.
We did not “become” aromantic because of bitterness.
Our lives are not any easier with the lack of romantic feelings. In fact, it can sometimes be harder.
Peace out. <3
Amen!
explodingmuffins asked: Any aces in Las Vegas, NV? Sin City isn't the best place for an ace I think, and I'm feeling a bit lonely out here in the desert.
Anonymous asked: Sorry for asking this, but what do the black rings mean?
Anonymous asked: The links on the side are really difficult to see. Any chance you could darken those?
caughtunawares asked: Hello, I wanted to tell you that the FAQ on this site is very helpful. Thank you.
missmodela:
“man we totally raped the other team”
“i wish girls these days would have more self respect”
“i’m not racist my best friend is black”
[Ace Fic] Who needs normal, anyway? by oreganotea →
aceofholmes:
Rating: Teen
Pairing: Ace!Sherlock+John, John+Mary
Word count: 1486
Summary: Mary scratches at the back of her head ruefully. “I met you and Sherlock at the same time, remember?” she asks. Rhetorical question. “I saw what you were like together. I assumed… well, I assumed you were involved. It’s one of the main reasons I agreed to go out with you.”
Oh gosh, Mary is so awesome...
felixfiefdom asked: I am trying to see if I really identify as a demisexual, so I was wondering if there were others who had the same questions as me. Do you know any Demisexual blogs on tumblr?
Anonymous asked: I feel horrible for asking this, so apologies if I offend any one. I recently came out as asexual to my parents, who thankfully accepted it. However, they suggested that I might be asexual because I've been ill since childhood and am used to removing clothes for examinations and operations, therefore I don't associate nakedness or being touched with good feelings. Is there any proof for...
#146: You Know You're Asexual When...
youknowyoureasexual:
Reading a romance novel:
Other girls: God! I can’t wait to experience this!
Me: God! Do I have to experience this?
More like someone who’s aromantic more or less, but still applies to a lot of asexuals I suppose :D
How to Be a Friend to Trans Folks Without Putting...
kiriamaya:
This goes out to all the cis people who, it’s quite obvious, want to help and befriend trans people, but who keep alienating and angering us instead. I’ve seen the befuddled looks on your faces when this happens, and I thought I’d try to clear a few things up for you. Let’s look at some common scenarios in which well-meaning cis people screw up with the whole pro-trans thing, and look...
Anonymous asked: I was wondering if any one out there had suggestions in regards to, well, approaching a sexual partner about the possibility of an open relationship. It's something I'd be okay with, but I'm not sure how my partner will take the suggestion. I just feel super guilty about the idea of any sort of unfairness in our relationship (I almost /never/ get any urges), but at the same time,...
ecchi-desu asked: How old do you have to be to attend that conference? or is it specifically for the students of that school?
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Made one
asexualaxolotl:
http://memegenerator.net/instance/16642645?urlName=Asexual-Axolotl&browsingOrder=New&browsingTimeSpan=AllTime
Oh, lovely meme going on there :)
The AVEN Project Team is now on Facebook too! →
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I feel like this is too hard to try and explain within the characters limits of the ask box so I felt submit would be more appropriate.
I’m sexual, and possibly even oversexual or at least if feels like I am, I happen to be in a relationship with an asexual, going into the relationship I was made aware my partner wasn’t that comfortable with sex but at the time being she just...
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http://the-plaid-velociraptor.tumblr.com/post/19996...
This collab channel is looking for some vloggers to talk about life experiences.
(x)
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Anonymous asked: The cake thing is not about cake being better than cake. (I'm demisexual and I actually find this to be a bit offensive) AVENwiki has a page about cake that contains a modified version of the story. Cake is a symbol of welcoming.
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Anonymous asked: I'm genuinely scared that I'm never going to meet someone I love who's okay with me being asexual. I feel like I'll have to end up marrying whoever I can get, if I can even get anyone at all. I don't know if you have any advice or comforting words or anything, but I could use some...
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Anonymous asked: I am still so extremely confused, I want to identify as asexual SO BAD because it's the closest thing that ever fit me, but I feel like I'm so so wrong all the time and I always second guess myself and it doesn't help that I can never explain my situation fully at all with the very limited amount of characters in an ask. I need someone's advice >_<
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Anonymous asked: so i had one of my first sexual encounters last week. before that, i identified as asexual, but i felt the need to experiment before i "came out." it was with an old friend, and we didn't do much, but i couldn't... get into it. I mean, don't get me wrong, it was nice. But only because it was actual physical stimulation, and i couldn't help but enjoy the orgasm....
Anonymous asked: What if you're ace and don't like cake???
Five College Queer Gender and Sexuality Conference →
frompastmetofutureme:
Saturday, March 31, 2012 Franklin Patterson Hall, Hampshire College
The Five College Queer Gender and Sexuality Conference is a free, day-long conference at Hampshire College in Amherst, MA.
Workshops include:
Workshop Session A
10:30-11:45 AM
BDSM 101: Whip Yourself Into Shape!
Bisexuals Creating Fabulous Relationships
Fem(me)inism; Politics/Theory/Art
How to be a...
Anonymous asked: Can we start up the tinychat again tonight?
http://queerhumanizationproject.tumblr.com/
An interesting projecting
Anonymous asked: Continuing the line of discussion about the difference between attraction and desire, how does arousal play into the equation? Even if I'm aroused by certain traits in the other sex, does that still count as a form of aesthetic attraction? If not, doesn't the complete lack of desire for sex make me asexual, or do I just default to "straight with no libido whatsoever who dislikes...
Anonymous asked: This may have been referred to on the blog previously: what is the association of asexuality and cake?
veqan asked: I'm only young, I mean, I'm 14. So maybe it's a phase or a progression of phases. I was pretty much straight until about sixth grade and I started feeling more and more attracted to other females also, then men started to lose their touch before then I fell out with women. However, I'm a little confused because unless they have bad hygiene... if they're intelligent and a...
Any Brazilian aces? Interview volunteer needed for...
avenpt:
We’ve been speaking to a TV journalist with TV Cultura, Brazil who wishes to make a short clip about asexuality. They are speaking to a few of us over Skype. It would be great if we could have a Brazilian person on board too. If you’re Brazilian and would like to be interviewed on webcam, via skype, please contact phelipejanning@tvcultura.com.br as soon as possible - and also cc the...
Anonymous asked: I just wanna thank you for having this blog be a thing that exists! Before I found this I was really confused about my sexuality, I didn't understand why I was always so uncomfortable whenever someone made a sex joke or asked me if I thought someone was "sexy". Now I know, nope I don't think so! And it's really made me feel a lot better about myself to know that...
We need an ace version of 'fuck, marry, kill'
eosdawn:
How ‘bout ‘bake cake with, eat cake with, kill with poisoned cake’?
I’m down for that.
AVEN Digest - 26th March 2012
avenpt:
AVEN Digest - 26th March 2012
Site News:
Congratulations to our newly-elected moderators, Ithaca and GirlDreamer: http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/72545-welcome-our-new-moderators/
World Watch:
Asexuality was included in a programme on European sexuality broadcast on Belgian TV channel RTL TVI:...
Anonymous asked: How do you differentiate between sexual attraction and sexual desire, and is there any significance to that distinction? While I find things like shapely figure, full lips, nice hair, and whatnot in the opposite gender attractive or even "sexy", I completely lack any desire to engage in inter or outercourse with them. Is it sexual attraction even if it does not imply a desire to have...
Anonymous asked: Um, it's not about asexuality, but I know a lot of asexual are also trans, and anyway it may interest you, so... I read in the journal this morning that a girl got disqualified from Miss Universe Canada because she was trans. I thought you may want to go sign the petition to reverse the unfair discrimination: change....
Anonymous asked: With the not realising that people have/want sex: I'm the same. I mean logically of course I'm aware it's not the case but I'm always a little shocked when I'm confronted with the fact that people I personally know have sex. Sex, in my mind, only happens with people I don't know.
Anonymous asked: Late to the "might be more comfortable with sex if i had a penis" discussion. I'm the same in that rare fantasies including myself are always with me having a penis or strap-on to penetrate someone rather than vice versa. I'm wondering if it's a control issue. Being asexual there might be a lot of trust we put on any sexual partner to keep things in our comfort zone or let...
Anonymous asked: I just wanted to clear something up. So, I'm a panromantic asexual, BUT, I do have a sex drive. Sex sounds wonderful, but through all the penises, boobs, butts, and muscles, I find no attraction. I've shown demisexual tendencies for one person, and one person alone, so it's easier to identify asexual. But, my questions is, with a sex drive, but no attraction for physical appearance,...
