January 2012
Anonymous asked: I've recently realized that I identify as a hetero-romantic demi; I've told my sister and it wasn't an issue, but I have a boyfriend whom I've been intimate with and I'm afraid he won't believe me or say that I'm just making it up to have an excuse to break up with him. Like I said, we have slept together, but it's almost /always/ been for his benefit...
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Sent a message to "Dr. Bill" the author of the...
Telling him to educate himself on asexuality.
He responded with a really lovely message
“go fuck yourself, oh wait you can’t do that can you?”
Isn’t he hilarious?
You can email him here
trock4304@mypacks.net
I’m not suggesting people send him hate mail, because we shouldn’t, but he needs to educate himself and stop slandering asexuality.
Recent blog post...
Anonymous asked: Hey, just a question to ask everyone reading but how many other asexual people do you know? And what's the ratio of males to females or whatever goes in between? I know three other aces myself and they're all girls.
So, I've only seen the first series, but I'm...
thinkthereforedangerous:
My friend says he’s pansexual, but I haven’t picked up on that yet.
FACT: Asexual panromantics can hear radio waves...
JAGTAB Blogger is Back: Asexuality is Not a Valid... →
ace-reporter:
I might have a comment here, but I think I’ll save it for now and post it three years later when I need people to remember who I am.
Anonymous asked: I am starting to recognize that "asexual" might be a valid label to apply to myself, but I still question whether I masturbate too frequently for an ace. It's never to people, and the idea that others picture people while doing that was a huge shock to me, although I do read smut (but never watch ew), and I'm currently pondering the definition of sexual attraction. [Response...
Anonymous asked: I can identify with the last anon. I find it hard to masturbate thinking about people though, it's more of something I have to get over with because my body tells me so. But the whole finding people aesthetically pleasing and such I can definitely agree with. I'm Grey-a, if that has any barring.
Anonymous asked: I'm confused as to who I am. I can be physically attracted to men and women, but I don't always find myself sexually attracted to those same people. Sometimes I am, sometimes I'm not. I don't really think about having sex much anymore, and when it comes to hypothetically doing it with other men, I'd only do it if it pleased the other person. I feel like I'm starting...
onielar asked: After reading the 'different kinds of attraction" list I can now stop feeling weird or paranoid about when a guy tries to you know, ask for my number, approach me, etc.. which they think that I am denying them , but it's not that at all, it's just I do not desire or feel that kind attraction, I just want to be good friends.. So, I can now say "squish" instead of...
Hi, this is just a quick hello to everyone to introducing me, the new mod. I’ll just be helping out and easing the load from the founder, nothing will really change much, I don’t think. c:
Any asks I answer will be signed “Griff” (my actual name is Morgan, but Griff is quicker) to differentiate me from the founder.
I think it’s customary to link to one’s...
cheshameoba asked: For the anon looking for the list of nonsexual affections google "nonsexual intimacies" in quotes like that. It's by livejournal user ysabetwordsmith and it's a pretty great list!
Anonymous asked: I just have to give you a big virtual hug and a slice of cake. This blog (plus other resources but mostly this blog) has helped me figure out that I'm not just some weirdo who "can't understand" and has never felt this "sexual attraction" her friends talk about and that I'm not alone in the world on this. Thanks so so soooo very much, and keep up the awesome...
Officially have a co-moderator for the blog.
It was getting too hard on my own, so basically there’s now two of us. It’s still the same blog and we’ll be doing the same thing though. xD
wordwerks asked: I think I've mostly figured out that I'm aromantic - the emotional perks of a relationship always -sound- nice, but the thought of being in an actually romantic relationship just make me feel... not right - but I was wondering... is there a term to describe still being aesthetically/sensually/emotionally attracted to a single gender, but not in a sexual or romantic way? Hetero-romantic...
FACT: Demisexuals go into heat every seven years,...
headmistressbandita asked: Just came out to my brother. He just said "okay" and went back to watching TV. Way better than I was expecting. Feels really awesome.
Anonymous asked: I'm confused on the topic of genders. I know sex and gender are two different things, and I understand the two sexes, but what about genders? Could you explain that to me?
Anonymous asked: I think I'm grey-A. I know I'm not asexual because I do experience attraction towards other people, but 99% of the time it's people of fiction. I have had sex before & I wasn't really aroused it felt sort of... pointless when I could just pleasure myself. Although I liked it when it was with someone I loved, I felt some attraction, but I didn't really 'get...
Anonymous asked: I identify as ace, and probably will no matter what, but even though I'm an aversive and never want to have sex with anyone ever ew no, sometimes aesthetic attraction turns me on and i do occasionally masturbate to people? I guess the point is, does anybody else feel the same way, and how do you identify if so?
Anonymous asked: Okay I'm a lesbian and I honestly think anyone can be appart of the LGBTQ community, even if they are straight. As long as they are accepting. I mean LGBTQ is supposed to except everyone not based on their sexuality. So if straight people are accepting then they can be appart of the community. So if asexuals want to accociate themselves with the community they can. If they don't want to,...
anshky asked: Is there a word to describe what type of people you're aesthetically attracted to? I'm generally attracted to males and masculinity, but I'm ace and gray-aro so I wouldn't want to use androsexual/androromantic.
Living Single, by Bella DePaulo →
isaac-asexy:
A blog about the myths ans discrimination against single people. Interesting for aromantics.
Anonymous asked: i know that i am somewhere within the ace spectrum but not particularly sure where. i have no desire to really have sex with anyone. however, there was one guy who i could have seen myself with but the only time i imagined having sex with him involved him using a toy on me and thats about it, no actual sex. he was the only person i could myself doing that with too. does this still count as ace or...
Anonymous asked: I have a couple questions: 1) Is it possible for a demisexual to still have issues with sexual interest and low sex-drive, even after forming a deep emotional bond? 2) I'm having a hard time trying to categorize my feelings about sexuality vs sensuality and being hetero-romantic. I've been told my feelings are just backlash for being with a hypersexual partner in the past and that...
thewaytheyusedto:
gay and asexual people should really stop this stupid “having my sexuality is worse than having yours” fight, this is not a fucking competition. just stop. really, guys, stop this shit.
People are fighting about it? I think we need to have a huge parade, asexual people on one side and gay people on the other and we all meet in the middle and hug. <3
Anonymous asked: I saw this post a long while ago that was this girl from Livejournal talking about Asexual relationships, or just what to do in a relationship that is not sexual. Like braiding each others hair and stuff. Have you any idea what I'm talking about? :3 Thanks.
Asexual Input Wanted!
rubbishheterosexuals:
Hey everybody! I’m thinking of writing a pilot script for a show about as many different variations of sexuality as possible, and I very much want to include asexuality, as I believe asexuals get a very short shrift as far as media depictions are concerned. So I’m asking for input - any and all answers will be appreciated. Just let me know what you’re thinking!
What...
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Miss Lonelyhearts: If Your Boyrfriends Asexuality... →
ace-reporter:
Even if it does bother him, this letter writer’s boyfriend needs to accept it. Asexuality is contagious and fatal.
Anonymous asked: What's the difference between someone who's gray-ace and a sexual person with limits? At least in my experience, most sexual people aren't exactly indescriminate when it comes to who/how/when/where. It seems like most people could be described as a/demi/gray-sexual to some degree.
Anonymous asked: Hi. I'm having a hard time figuring out if I am asexual or not. The main reason that I'm unsure is because I get aroused reading and watching porn. I have never been sexually attracted to anyone, though I can get turned on by things such as being kissed/holding hands/someone petting my hair, but it's more that I'm aroused by the sensation and at all by the person doing it.
New Poll: Are Asexuals Part of the LGBT grouping?
ace-reporter:
This isn’t relevant but my keyboard is broken.
Anonymous asked: I read all Faq's and still am not sure if I actually am asexual . . . I actually got raised with the phrase "Sex is the best way to show your love" but I don't really feel that way. Plus I still tried it once but I didn't feelt anything besides uncomfortable. Does that mean that I actually am asexual? I am really Sorry if you actually ever answered something like this...
illuminorti asked: Yeah, with all the varied time zones, I guess it'd be difficult. xD I think it was late night/early morning for most of the people last time. It was so much fun that I wouldn't mind staying up past midnight for this again; I don't think I've ever laughed so much. :D (sorry I had to reply by ask; I tried to make it fit in 250 characters but it was just a few over. :c)
illuminorti asked: I know the chat is always open, but is there a certain prescheduled time/day that people will go there? :3
Anonymous asked: thank you :)
Anonymous asked: to clarify, i am a sexual person who is aromantic. where do i fit?
Anonymous asked: I told my best friend that I was asexual and I think she thinks it means something completely different than what it really means. how can i explain to her that I can still like people without feeling the desperate need to rip their clothes off?
Anonymous asked: Thank you for defining aesthetic and sensual attraction. I get those terms now! I'm still struggling with what romantic attraction is, or what romance is/means in general. Help?
aceofholmes:
[Ace Fic] Better than a Rubber Duck by anon
Rating: PG-13
Pairing: Ace!Sherlock+Irene
Summary: Sherlock and Irene take a Very Platonic Bath.
pocketsniper asked: I just want to say I really, really love this blog. At first I thought I was just a fluid asexual for my sexual drive, but going more in depth with it -- I feel like I can fit myself into as a Gray-Ace. This blog alone makes me feel more comfortable in my skin about my sexuality when I have to explain it to people. Keep up the good work guys! <3
Anonymous asked: I'm sixteen and am identifying as an asexual. I haven't really experienced sexual attraction and am repulsed at the though of intercourse. However I'm afraid that, because of my age, I /will/ grow out if it, and that if I do become sexual later on in life, people who knew me as asexual will feel like they can prove that asexuality is just a phase. I don't want to invalidate the...
