November 2011
Important things to remember about aces.
ayries:
Not spurred on by anything specific, just something I think always bears repeating every now and again, even to ourselves. You know?
Some aces have and enjoy sex.
Some aces are apathetic about sex, but don’t hate it. They may still have it themselves.
Some aces hate having sex. (This does not mean they automatically hate other people having it, i.e. are slutshamers. If an asexual...
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Emilie Autumn
Does anyone here like her music? My friend showed me some of her stuff and it sounded amazing. She also identifies as asexual.
http://www.emilieautumn.com/
Anonymous asked: While the opening of the article was iffy, the author managed to avoid the 'never had sex loser virgins let us laugh at how weird they are' pitfall I see happen too often. All in all, pretty decent. Commenters were dicks, but whatever.
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What are your opinions on this article on...
Article is here
At least we’re getting some awareness, even if it isn’t always positive. Although some of the comments on the article are fairly typical in the negative sense.
shaolina:
tentacledicks:
shaolina:
tentacledicks:
nat-attack:
it would be SO COOL if one day could go by without someone using the asexual tag to say “herp derp boys suck I’m becoming asexual”
No, see, what you do is turn it into a drinking game. Take a shot everytime someone says
boys suck I’m ace now lololol
all aces/graces/demis are inherently slut shamers
all aces are actually...
216. I WANT TO SMASH MY FOOT THROUGH YOUR SKULL.
ginaxmalice:
“ps. i am now asexual, guys are too much trouble and i just dont like girls, therefore, i am now going to like no one. i am now asexual. thank you.”
Oh! I didn’t realise my sexual orientation was just something people claim when they have boy/girl trouble. And here I thought it was real. Apparently asexuality is a choice now and is just another word for ‘celibacy’…
Asexuality...
*sigh*
elliebuzz:
You have probably guessed/know from posts of mine I’ve made in the past, but I am forcing myself to finally just… admit it. After typing up that last post on my rant blog, I just…. cannot deny it anymore even though I still feel unsure.
I am not… asexual anymore. I am sorry I have turned into a sterotype of the asexual community. This is hard to type, but I know doing stuff like this...
sidneyia:
Oh dear.
[content warning: asexual shaming/erasure]
Three things:
1. Calling people “virgins” is hugely problematic because it defines people by what they haven’t done, not what they do (or want to do). I hate the way this label is foisted on people, especially asexual people like myself who could well be “virgins” our entire lives. If I don’t...
nat-attack:
it would be SO COOL if one day could go by without someone using the asexual tag to say “herp derp boys suck I’m becoming asexual”
Haha I know right? Imagine how the lesbian community feel every time a straight girl claims she’s going to start dating girls now because “boys r stoopid”
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New Ace Blog!
ace-music.tumblr.com
A blog dedicated to asexy music (both for romantic and aromantic aces).
We’d be much obliged if you promoted us! :)
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To the last question about demisexuality…
It’s totally possible for a demisexual to experience romantic attraction to a person but never sexual attraction towards them. Like, for me, I can experience romantic attraction to anyone (regardless of gender), but have only every experienced sexual attraction to two people in my life, and they were both female-bodied. Basically, I’ve...
Depressing dating stuff. TW for unhappy sex and...
theanxiouswriter:
I suddenly feel like I should start dating again to make everyone around me happy. People who have always said they accepted my asexuality are starting to show that they really aren’t too keen on the idea. I was told that I should start joining dating groups that meet around the city so I’m not a lonely 45-year-old with a hundred cats in years to come.
I am feeling….rather...
So I gained like 17 new followers in the space of...
This is very rare for me…I wonder what I did? :)
Anyways, WELCOME ALL!
We have cake!
scienceandrollerskates asked: I have a question about demisexuality, and I hope you don't mind me asking you but I'm having difficulty finding comprehensive resources. If you don't want to answer, that's totally fine. Anyway: I know demisexuals have a romantic attraction and sexual attraction comes later, but do they sometimes have romantic attraction, and then the sexual attraction just doesn't...
About Demisexuality (The Orientation)
shadyjalapeno:
Here are some brief notes about demisexuality:
Demisexuality is -a real and legitimate orientation -a type of grey-a (asexual) orientation -an orientation that includes people of all genders, races, religions, nationality, etc -an orientation in which a person does not experience primary sexual attraction, but may experience this attraction after some kind of emotional connection...
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Hey guise bein asexual is shit and i cant do this...
im gonna try to be asexual for the rest of my life...
I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE.
foolishfiish:
-cue the Stephen Quire voice-
SERIOUSLY I CAN’T.
I CAN’T.
THERE ARE PEOPLE OF COLOUR IN THE ASEXUAL COMMUNITY!
WE. FUCKING. EXIST.
STOP ASSUMING EVERYONE IS WHITE WHEN YOU’RE TALKING TO THEM!
FUCK. Don’t assume everyone you talk to is white!
How many times do I have to scream “I’M NOT WHITE; I’M BLACK” before people fucking get it!?
You make an excellent point! Anyone,...
FACT: Asexuals' breath has magical restorative...
factsaboutqueers:
It was cultivated in the middle ages for the exclusive use of the queen. After her monopoly ended an enterprising businessman attempted to bottle and sell it but unfortunately it loses its properties when it comes in contact with glass.
I made a tumblr that features "ace-friendly"... →
bemusedlybespectacled asked: Just wanted to tell you guys that you're awesome. I'm bisexual, but I have one friend who is heterosexual biromantic and another who is demisexual, and the stuff you post helps me be an ally to them.
We should seriously start a betting pool.
greenchestnuts:
For any given post on asexuality that has a certain number of voices from outside the ace spectrum, how long does it take to devolve into the discussion of whether or not aces are queer? I think we’ve all noticed this phenomenon…
Now, I’m a scientist. I like to test things rationally. I propose we start a series of posts on the following topics and see how long it takes the...
You're chatting with a random stranger on Omegle.
Stranger: Horny m?
You: asexual genderqueer
Your conversational partner has disconnected.
raumlet:
Shouldn’t it say something to the Tumblr Ace Hate Wank Parade (that’s their name now) that there are aces who don’t jump into the discussion because the way this group approaches discussions with aces makes them feel unsafe? I have an ask in my inbox right now saying, and I quote (to protect them from the assholes):
the only aces I do see on my dash are either my friends who are...
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thingsthatmakeyouacey:
Just because a group has privileges, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t have bad experiences as victims of others’ privilege.
Just because a group is a victim of others’ privileges, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t have privileges.
Just because a group is a victim of certain privileges and another group is a victim of different privileges, it doesn’t mean they can’t get along, or...
FACT: Gray-a people are so called because their...
Jamaican doctor hits almost all stereotypes when... →
ace-reporter:
This has become an increasing problem as well
Hey y'all, Dan Savage solved our language problems...
greenchestnuts:
TW anti-ace (and, frankly, I think Dan Savage deserves his own warning— not a trigger warning, just a “warning Dan Savage ahead” type of thing)
So according to Dan Savage, people who aren’t “minimally sexual” are “normally sexual.”* There we go! We can call everyone who’s not on the ace spectrum “normally sexual”! And this usage came from a member of the GLBT community, so of...
The Asexual Privilege Checklist
cinnamonwheel:
Since tumblr asexuals keep saying they’ve been accused of ‘asexual privilege’, it’s about time someone actually accused them of it. Let me make that real clear because I know this is going to get twisted: BEFORE NOW NO ONE ACCUSED YOU OF THIS. STOP MAKING IT UP. and remember folks, if you can make a checklist then by definition it’s a real privilege! The Asexual Privilege...
dcltl-grizzly:
I am not ashamed of not having a sex life.
“What happens when we fall in love? Under the influence of the stimulus...”
– Mr. Nobody (via mkadir)
A question . . .
hernameishelen:
findingsherlock:
Okay, I am confused. This whole ‘sexual’ debacle - is it that people of the asexuality spectrum are saying that the word is offensive or are actual people, not of the asexuality spectrum, taking offense to the word being used in reference to them? Cos I’ve seen it a bit of both ways on my dash ._.
giantpapercranes
FS says:
Its usually sexual people...
