October 2011
My post for the Ace Blog Carnival: Gender edition →
aceeccentric:
In which I talk about being asexual and neutrois, and how those things overlap for me. Includes talk about identification, physical sex, stereotypes, and presentation. Also includes a picture of a basset hound and an owl because I didn’t know how to end the post.
(Warning: I talk about physical sex and sex drive in here, though not in much detail.)
Just a friendly reminder
If anyone ever has any troubles or issues or even questions regarding asexuality or any other ace-spectrums, don’t hesitate to ask me. I love you all and we deserve just as much help and support as anybody else.
Cheers everyone!
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Thank you, everyone.
Whenever I start to feel down about my asexuality and start hating it and wish I was different and what people consider normal, I post something about it and every time, I get responses from the Asexual community supporting me and telling me not to let anything people say bring me down. And I become proud again to be part of such a great community that is so together and kind. I’ve never...
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I foolishly peeked into my spam folder to be greeted with ‘Meet Sexual Women who do NOT play games’. I submit that this offer would be 100% more appealing if it read ‘Meet asexual women who play Monopoly’.
Reactions to the (A)sexual documentary (SPOILERS)...
lizziegoneastray:
(trigger warnings? maybe? not sure)
Right.
So.
I have thoughts, and not all of them are happy ones.
First and foremost, I want to make it clear that I highly recommend going to a screening if you still can. It’s a valuable experience that will really make you think about all sorts of relationship stuff, which it’s important to think about because — and I’m not sure I...
#81 You Know You're Asexual When...
youknowyoureasexual:
You watch The 40 Year Old Virgin and wonder what’s the big deal.
#79 You Know You're Asexual When...
youknowyoureasexual:
In the photo below, while your friends admire their body, you stare at the adorable panties; they’re just soooooo cute!
Does it count if I don’t find them all that cute?
[TW: Rape] Christ... AskMen.com asks "Can a woman...
feministslut:
fuckyeahgenderstudies:
This is so surprising to me. AskMen.com is a lot of things (mostly sensationalistically misogynistic), but i would not have expected “dubious about male rape” to be on that list.
Apparently, it is. Perhaps this opinion in particular has something to do with the fact that the author is a woman and co-host of a “Dr” Phil show spin-off, The Doctors. Which...
Anonymous asked: I really want to tell my family (my mother especially) that I'm demisexual. While other people have told me not to worry about it because "it's not as big as coming out lesbian or trans" I still want to let them know. However, I'm scared... Have any tips for me? (Also, this is an amazing blog :D)
Anonymous asked: I'm a 19 year old heteroromantic ace. I have fallen in love before & considered having sex just to make the guy happy despite being uninterested/mildly repulsed by sex for as long as I can remember. But now I have a good guy friend who I don't have romantic feelings for & who doesn't have them for me, but he makes me interested in sex. We've messed around & I want...
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#78 You Know You're Asexual When...
youknowyoureasexual:
Dan Savage says you shouldn’t “inflict yourself” on a non-asexual person by being in a relationship with them.
(A)sexual screening as Chicago's Reeling Film... →
Ah, What A Fine Bromance! The Hidden Asexual... →
outlawroad:
Holy fuck, this is brilliant.
I could say more but I would just be reiterating what meloukhia has so much more succinctly, clearly, and excellently said.
Go read.
Asexual Spectrum Winter Party!
demisexuality:
What: Ace (Asexual) Spectrum Winter Party
When: Thursday, December 22nd, 2011. Time is all day so everyone that wants to can attend. I chose the 22nd because I think most schools should be out by for Winter Break by this time. I know colleges tend to let out early to mid-December, but I’m sure there are a lot of people still in high school, maybe even younger, that would like to...
"That's not a real thing."
cleatora:
And what could anyone POSSIBLY gain by claiming they are not sexually attracted to anyone or anything? Many wish they weren’t just so they could live what you consider to be a “normal” life.
And why are a lot of people’s initial reactions “So you’re sexually attracted to chairs?” or “You’re sexually attracted to animals…?”
I mean, I can understand the “So you reproduce by budding?...
Anonymous asked: i'd often to masturbate, but i've never had sexual fantasies while i'm doing it, am i still asexual? i hope i will not masturbate anymore
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You Get Points for Trying
I first came out to my mother as asexual about six months ago. I started off slow, and over the course of a few serious conversations let her know that I am not sexually attracted to anyone. A few months later I introduced her to my girlfriend (a bisexual) and tried my hardest to overcome the awkwardness when she asked questions about our sex life.
When she first discovered I was asexual she told...
fuck this.
starstheyglowinthedark:
I’ve given up on boys. I don’t want a boyfriend or husband or kids or a marriage. I’ll be asexual and celibate.
I’ll become a nun. Or a cat lady.
Or, I’ll go live with Morrissey and we can be asexual together and I can cook for him and he can sing for me.
Sounds a-ok to me…
You can be celibate, but you cannot become asexual.
mister misfortune: animeds7: i don’t know if i’m... →
weird-friendless-kid:
impairing:
animeds7:
i don’t know if i’m not understanding this correctly,
but an asexual that has sex
shouldn’t be considered an asexual
i’m not saying this to be insensitive or anything
and i would really like someone to explain this to me
it just doesn’t make sense
Some asexuals do as a way…
Um. ASEXUALITY IS NOT THE SAME THING AS HAVING NO SEX DRIVE
...
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LGBT POV
Article on asexuality.
http://www.cafebabel.co.uk/article/39096/assexualit... →
germansparkleparty:
Asexual Awareness Week article (that used my Scout’s Honor photo with permission from me)
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Blog dedicated to Asexuality Week!
Check it out here
Question - Does anyone know of any asexual...
Asexuality studies presents... →
greenchestnuts:
There’s going to be a special issue of Psychology and Sexuality all about asexuality!!
Honestly, this has the possibility to go badly given how little many psychologists seem to know about asexuality, but I’m still excited.
The 2011 Ace Community Census
greenchestnuts:
Results can be found here.
It’s cool to have these numbers. If I recall correctly, most or nearly all of the options were ticky boxes and not radio buttons (which is good), which makes any sort of number-crunching difficult. However— why was there no option for biromantic/panromantic? These seems like a glaring omission, and one that I didn’t notice at the time, since I was too...
How to Be an Asexual Ally
block-boo:
Here’s some links to a pretty good series of articles about being an asexual ally, and just overall some dos and don’ts when meeting or talking with an asexual person.
In addition, I’m willing to answer any questions that come into my ask, anon or otherwise, about asexuality in general for anyone who’s curious! I’m not necessarily the most informed, but I’m willing to help inform in...
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Change your profile picture to support Asexual...
In support of Asexual Awareness Week, this group is inviting people to change their profile picture of something Asexually positive! If you don’t use Facebook, you could even change your Tumblr icon. Let’s help spread asexy awareness online :)
