May 2013
1 tag
Interested in studying asexuality? Here's some...
nextstepcake:
1. Asexual Explorations: http://www.asexualexplorations.net/home/
This site includes an excellent bibliography of basically all the existing published papers on asexuality; it also has supplementary information on related topics such as HSDD. You…
View Post
Anonymous asked: Im a girl but im really similar to guys in everything but im NOT gay at all because i know i dont like girls in that way,does that make me asexual ?? And if it does does that mean im going to be alone for the rest of my life ?
Anonymous asked: How often do asexual a experience hate? not just the traditional sense, but also people being elitist or something?
mitula:
What’s in someone’s pants is none of your concern (◡‿◡✿)
Who’s been in someone’s pants is none of your concern (◕‿◕✿)
How someone identifies themselves is none of your concern (ʘ‿ʘ✿)
If someone is genderfluid it’s none of your concern ( ʘ ▽ ʘ )ﾉ
If someone changes their gender back it’s none of your concern (●ʘ∀ʘ●)
Leave people the fuck alone and mind your own...
Anonymous asked: I've been identifying as asexual for a while. Neither gender turns me on. But if I'm kissing, cuddling, or being touched by my girlfriend (I'm homoromantic) I do get turned on, so I'm confused. I don't think its her turning me on, but the things she's doing. If I see her naked, it does nothing. Would this count as sexual? I can't imagine having sex other than...
Anonymous asked: Is it normal for other asexuals to get a little hot and bothered when thinking about other people having sex? Like if you're reading a fanfic about fictional characters? Not really by the people themselves but the idea of them doing things?
Anonymous asked: To the Anon that feels aroused out of nowhere post. OMGosh! I thank you for asking that question. For so long I felt like I was broken or something because I also become aroused at random times (from listening to music (no lyrics or sexual lyrics) to just reading a mystery book. My friend told me that it can't happen at random that you had to be thinking about something sexual. I'm...
Anonymous asked: I hate feeling aroused because I don't know what to do with it, because sometimes I don't feel like masturbating when it happens. Also bothers me because it comes out of the blue.
4 tags
Do things like this annoy you as much as they me?
Help AVEN raise funds to support the SF Pride... →
AVEN is shaping up to have the biggest and best Pride ever. On Saturday we’ll have a full-fledged conference in Berkeley with the major leaders of the Ace Movement and a day full of workshops on everything from improving mental health services for aces to aces in popular television. Then on Saturday, anyone who wants to will march in the parade! We’ll have art, t-shirts, flags and a great...
lunaxvx:
“You’re just a prude/frigid/repressed”
“You’re not asexual: you still go on dates”
“Are you completely sure?”
“I can’t possibly imagine being like that!”
“Wow, I admire your self control so much!”
“Oh but you’re too pretty for that! What a shame!!! :(“
“What you actually mean is you’re celibate”
“Come on, everyone LOVES sex!”
“You’re just being selfish”
“It’s so sad! I feel...
April 2013
Anonymous asked: A bromance and a squish are equal or are different?
Anonymous asked: I guess I'm just really confused. Like, I find people attractive and I've had crushes on people and wanted to kiss them but I've never really wanted to do sexy stuff. I also don't really know what it feels like to be sexually attracted to someone versus being romantically attracted to them, and I'm just generally confused! I feel very isolated, and that I can't talk...
Anonymous asked: um, hello. I don't really know how to phrase this so anyway. Lately I've been wondering if I was asexual. Like, I've never had sex, or even been kissed, but the thought of anything besides hugging, cuddling, and things that can be considered platonic seems odd and unappealing to me. And as I thought about it further, I realized I've never really had a full on "crush"....
5 tags
(Just a note/disclaimer: No, not all asexual spectrum people would be willing to engage in sexual activities, and they should not feel the obligation to do so in anyway under any circumstances. Also, asexual spectrum people experience sexual activities individually, from repulsion to enjoyment, and plenty in between. They can enjoy sex for various reasons, including the enjoyment of sex and the...
Anonymous asked: Yesterday I went to the wedding of a close friend. It was quite an "a-ha" moment for me, because I realized that, being the only ace I know, my friends, who are really into sex and romantic relationships, will end up finding their significant someones and I'll be the "last one standing". It sounds selfish, but my friends saved me from suicide and are the reason I feel...
Anonymous asked: I've been wondering for a while now if I'm asexual, and I'd like to talk to my mom about it, but I'm wondering for you or perhaps others who have talked with family, does it carry the same stigma as coming out of the closet does? My family is moderately homophobic, so I am scared they would judge me for not being attracted to the opposite gender(or any gender for that matter).
thefacesofaces:
Hello! Just your mod here to remind you that this is still running. In order for this blog to continue to run it needs submissions.
Another thing I have noticed is that a lot of the submissions have been of het people. There isnt anything wrong with that but the creation of this blog was sparked in a queer setting and I just want you to know that if you are queer you 10000%...
Sexual ethics as applying to asexual-nonasexual... →
allitalksfandom:
This post is adapted from my response to an asexual anon from Asexual Advice who inquired, “Is it a fair compromise to feel the need to perform for my [non-asexual] partner?” THIS POST AND ITS OUTG…
Triggers mentioned at the top of the link
Finding Asexual Characters →
greenchestnuts:
There’s always a lot of discussion around of major TV characters (such as Sherlock and Sheldon Cooper, for example) being asexual. So I thought I’d put together a list of four other, perhaps lesser known characters – from books, movies, TV, web comics – who are either named as asexual (in one case), strongly implied to be asexual, or at least could easily be asexual in my mind....
extended-metaphor:
The opposite of “asexuality” is not “wanting to fuck everything that moves.”
Anonymous asked: Hey I wanted to reblog that relationship post, but I'm not out to my blog so I thought it best not to at this point. I'm asexual and I've been in a relationship for 4 months. I came out to him yesterday and he was just like "sure, okay," even before I said I would be open to the idea of sex eventually. He doesn't even seem to want sex with me - which, for me, is...
blackjackgabbiani asked: Maybe you can explain this. I don't understand, in your post about repression, why people would do so. The best way to combat oppression is to simply be yourself, so why be bullied into submitting and disappearing? Especially what you said about
4 tags
Guys, just adding something to the relationship subject, remember remember to always put yourself first if you’re in a relationship with a sexual person. A lot of them are going to say many very wrong things, often not meaning to hurt you. And if you love them, your mind is going to believe a lot of that even if you really know it’s nonsense. A few years ago I entered a relationship as...
thefirstgentleman:
casual reminder that for every person who doesn’t want to label their sexuality theres another person who prefers the tangibility of a word and both are ok
Anonymous asked: how can a person differentiate between sexual repression and asexual tendencies?
Anonymous asked: I just wanted to put in that I, too, am an ace in a relationship with a sexual person. We do it sometimes, but not often and he respects my feelings on the matter. Anyone who says you need sex to have a lasting relationship is bonkers. I have asked him if he would be okay if we never did it again, and the answer was yes. We're engaged.
Please, reblog if it's possible to be [insert...
lonetaku:
My mom doesn’t seem to want to get it, or me…
Asexual currently in a long term relationship with a non-asexual, and going strong :)
brightburningred asked: Dothebravething: I'm an asexual in a relationship with a person who is sexual. She's totally willing to respect my feelings about sex, and is okay if we never go there (I haven't decided if it's something I'm willing to do or not). So don't worry! Though everyone you meet may not be willing to make a sacrifice like that, it is possible to find people who are okay not...
Anonymous asked: If porn makes someone shake, physically sick and nauseous, what is wrong with them? Why would this happen to someone?
noranyother replied to your post: I have had kids at school ask me about my…
just pointing out that “opposite gender/sex” is binarist
Oh shit really? What should I say as an alternative?
Anonymous asked: whats the difference between arousal and sexual attraction?
Anonymous asked: I have had kids at school ask me about my sexuality and when I reply that I'm Asexual, they begin to question. I simply tell them that I'm not sexually attracted to anyone and they all give me weird looks and ask why. I never really know what to say after that. What should I do?
Not Broken. Not Alone. Ace Pride Images
redbeardace:
Larger sizes available on AsexualityArchive.com.
5 tags
It’s okay to want to have sex. It’s okay to not want to have sex. It’s okay to want to have sex everyday. It’s okay to only want sex only under specific circumstances. It’s okay to want to have sex with lots of people. It’s okay to want to have sex with just one person. It’s okay to not be ready for sex.
Anonymous asked: Hi! I want to answer to 'dothebravething', and to the people who wonder if they will be able to have a relationship with someone. I am not asexual, but I've been in a relationship with an asexual boy (ftm) for more than three years. We never had sex, but I love him all the same, and I know if one day we break up, it won't be because of his asexuality. So don't worry,...
Anonymous asked: Do you know of an asexual meme (or meme-blog on tumblr)? I only found a few examples in the tags, but not much. Great blog btw!
dothebravething asked: I've always felt different. I do have crushes, and I felt in love once. And though I do feel horny sometimes, I don't want to have sex. With anyone. I don't even like to masturbate. I thought I was different, or maybe I had a problem. Then, I recently (like really recently) I discovered that there is asexual people. And I kind of feel like this is who I am. But I do want a...
...: Asexuals and Sex/Masturbation →
tout-seuls:
Asexuality does not mean that an individual absolutely does not want to have sex, but rather it refers to an individual who lacks the ability to experience sexual attraction. Asexual identifying individuals range on a scale of having no desire for sex/masturbation to having a desire for sex/masturbation despite not experiencing sexual attraction.
Sex is an act, sexual attraction...
Anonymous asked: I've had sex before (myself being female with another female) but i didnt at all enjoy it and I find myself very romantically inclined toward women but the idea of sex with anybody scares me. If it were you how would you identify?
Anonymous asked: Hi, first of all this is a great blog, so thank you for being so educational! I identify as a panromantic heterosensual asexual - I'm aesthetically attracted to all genders but only sensually attracted to men. I only seem to want romantic relationships with men, but in theory I think romance should be genderless. How do you define a romantic orientation without being sexist?
Anonymous asked: Did you get my question asking if I may be demisexual? I'm sorry it was like... five pasges long.
